See what I mean - no one in my hospice program was allowed to touch the vent. Maybe they can at least bath her for you. When Joe is bathed, I have to stand by him in case the tubes come undone on the vent. I guess some help is better than none. Wouldn't it be nice if they would handle things so you could rest? Not going to happen....when he was hospice, he was prescribed morphine. I would give him some before he went to bed. His home health dr doesn't like using the morphine now. I think he doesn't want him to build up a tolerance so when the end comes it will be more effective. He didn't come out and say that but that's my opinion. The good news with hospice is you don't pay for anything.