Missy, Would he agree to going to a counselor with you, do you think? Forgive me, I should know this, but have to ask, are you getting Hospice help yet? I would think you need them, and they have social workers and chaplains, as you know. I understand how this might be, as I'm married to such a responsible man who always takes care of anything, especially regarding my future needs (what we used to think would be the normal things). I imagine his just quitting and refusing, and it is mind boggling. My heart breaks for you, Missy. Love, Ann