thanks again Steve, I will, I am pretty depressed right now as well, my whole family is. In time I'm sure I will chime in a lot more. My messages will be pretty depressing right now I'm afraid. I guess I'm still hoping for a miracle, wrong diagnosis perhaps. I can't bear the thought of this happening to anybody let alone my mother. Thanks again for your advise and help. I'm trying to remain anonymous on here because my mom might read this and I know should would not want me to worry. peace