ErinG

Good morning ~ since we are somewhat in the same boat, may I ask just HOW you are handling your kids and your x-husband. Because I have chidlren with him, my children want me around lately becasue this is still somewhat scary to them. Their father does not think it is appropriate that I am involved . It just really concerns the ALS involvement , not anything else. I know it is a difficult time for all but I just dont where I belong. Obviously I want to be with my children. He thinks it is uncomfortable for him for me to be around............does he not think I am uncomfortable as well BUT will do anything for my children......................please let me know your thoughts, CATE

Wow I didn't really think I'd find someone in a similar situation here as I thought that the crowd here was going to be different. I am glad you responded. My ex was not the greatest dad, and he was not the greatest husband, either. I got married too young and bought into the fantasy of what marriage was, had three kids before I realized that I was stuck. This has been a strange few months for me as my emotions have gone from saddness to relief to guilt.. I can't see myself helping in any way except to be there for the kids-

This is all so much for me. Thank you for responding. I feel like I am in such a strange place. On one hand I remember all the great things about my ex husband and how we created a family so long ago as young people. On the other hand it was a difficult and turbulent marriage and ended badly. We have been divorced close to 15 years. Our children are effectively all adults, 24, 20 and 18. It has been a long road filled with resentment and saddness. I raised the children and they visited dad on holidays and summer breaks. He is just so abusive towards our oldest and from afar it looks like he sees me in her and it hurts me.

Hi Erin ! Welcome ...............I am in the exact place you are. My x-husband was just recently diagnosed as well with ALS. We have 2 children 11 and 14. He is remarried and a great dad. It is a very difficult position to be in. I joined this Forum which has been a Godsend to me. I am trying to pour as much knowledge into my little head as I can. I want and need to be armed and ready for my children. I am meeting with a therapist as well so I know how to chart this course. Its funny, everyone on that side wants me out and my children want me in !! What to do ! I kind of lurk in the background ,not to far away from my children ~ anyway , email me anytime please..........Our own little First wives club !!!