Ladyinn
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Apr 7, 2010
- Messages
- 398
- Reason
- PALS
- Diagnosis
- 11/2009
- Country
- US
- State
- South Dakota
- City
- Custer
I read posts of caregivers who are in a desperate need of relief. And having been a caregiver, twice (husband and mother), I know what they are talking about.
When I was the caregiver, I waited to call Hospice for help until weeks before my husband died, and days before my mother passed. I had listen to all the things they could do for us when I signed the papers but it was too late to use their services! I thought they helped dying easier at the end. Boy, was I wrong. Hospice does do that but their purpose and services are so much more.
I swore that I would never have a caregiver experience such emotional stress for me. After my mother died in December, I called our local Compassionate Care Hospice and talked with my doctor for a Rx. I don't plan on dying anytime soon and Hospice is helping me live life comfortably, longer. It is also helping my primary caregiver, my partner, with needed breaks each day.
My aide comes in from 8-10 M_F to help me get ready for the day. She showers and dresses me - puts my make-up on, does my hair and even my nails when needed! No more manicures or pedicures at the local salon -- all free now! Oh, and when I am feeling the need - even a massage! I feel good to start the day. More importantly - my caregiver has some alone time to use as he needs. Some mornings he goes to the office and does work and some days he meets the guys for coffe at the local bakery!
One day a week Hospice sends a volunteer in after the aide leaves and she is here till 5 to watch over and help me. That is the day that from 8-5 my partner can get away for business or pleasure. (Mostly he has been shoveling walks around here and plowing our road so guests can get in - not sure it is pleasure but he doesn't have to worry about me being alone and falling.)
We can both tell a big difference in our stress levels and are really enjoying life again. I don't know if this makes sense, but I am grateful to Hospice for helping take some stress out of our lives - especially helping my partner have some time to live without worry -
I write this to raise awareness to those caregivers out there, that you too may have options for some relief. You just need to first admit you aren't super woman/man.
Smiling and hopeful,
Diane
When I was the caregiver, I waited to call Hospice for help until weeks before my husband died, and days before my mother passed. I had listen to all the things they could do for us when I signed the papers but it was too late to use their services! I thought they helped dying easier at the end. Boy, was I wrong. Hospice does do that but their purpose and services are so much more.
I swore that I would never have a caregiver experience such emotional stress for me. After my mother died in December, I called our local Compassionate Care Hospice and talked with my doctor for a Rx. I don't plan on dying anytime soon and Hospice is helping me live life comfortably, longer. It is also helping my primary caregiver, my partner, with needed breaks each day.
My aide comes in from 8-10 M_F to help me get ready for the day. She showers and dresses me - puts my make-up on, does my hair and even my nails when needed! No more manicures or pedicures at the local salon -- all free now! Oh, and when I am feeling the need - even a massage! I feel good to start the day. More importantly - my caregiver has some alone time to use as he needs. Some mornings he goes to the office and does work and some days he meets the guys for coffe at the local bakery!
One day a week Hospice sends a volunteer in after the aide leaves and she is here till 5 to watch over and help me. That is the day that from 8-5 my partner can get away for business or pleasure. (Mostly he has been shoveling walks around here and plowing our road so guests can get in - not sure it is pleasure but he doesn't have to worry about me being alone and falling.)
We can both tell a big difference in our stress levels and are really enjoying life again. I don't know if this makes sense, but I am grateful to Hospice for helping take some stress out of our lives - especially helping my partner have some time to live without worry -
I write this to raise awareness to those caregivers out there, that you too may have options for some relief. You just need to first admit you aren't super woman/man.
Smiling and hopeful,
Diane