pepsiman
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Feb 4, 2009
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- 445
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
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- NY
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- Latham
I posted over on the Family Hurts thread about my talk last night with Liz's best friend. Well after that talk, and after the boy's went to bed, my 18 year old stayed up and we talked...for three hours. No topic was off limits, we talked sex, drugs (she's been experimenting a little with that "herbal remedy"), school, life and love and everything else that came to mind. She's got a remarkable head on her shoulders, just like her mother. I was amazed by what she was interested in discussing and what was verboten between her and her mother. We had a meaningful discussion about sex (not the, use condoms, don't get pregnant discussion she had with her mother), with no embarrassment and no judgement. We had a similar discussion about drugs and alcohol. I told her the story of our love, memories I hold dear, things we never resolved, just everything.
As I said, she's 18 and even if I wanted to, I can't effectively tell her what to do anymore. She does however, apparently, have great respect for me and my opinions. This amazes me in light of the events of the last year and particularily the last four months.
I think I've developed a rapport with this daughter of mine. One I hope will last the rest of my life. I can only hope to reach each of my other three kids in such a deep and meaningful way. Now I'm crying, but these are happy tears. I am dad, and mom now, and I think I might just be able to pull this off.
Dick
As I said, she's 18 and even if I wanted to, I can't effectively tell her what to do anymore. She does however, apparently, have great respect for me and my opinions. This amazes me in light of the events of the last year and particularily the last four months.
I think I've developed a rapport with this daughter of mine. One I hope will last the rest of my life. I can only hope to reach each of my other three kids in such a deep and meaningful way. Now I'm crying, but these are happy tears. I am dad, and mom now, and I think I might just be able to pull this off.
Dick