Mick n Ang
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2010
- Messages
- 174
- Diagnosis
- 12/2008
- Country
- UK
- State
- England
- City
- Bolton,Manchester
Had a real eye opener today and it probably doesn't help that I too, am not at my best at the moment after having an ovarian cyst removed, but never the less Mick really got angry this morning.
He needed to get onto the commode which I got then helped him transfer to but that didn't seem quick enough or good enough because he didn't go straight away, so now he wanted a suppository (no probs) I sighed to myself because this meant I had to go upstairs for one. Big mistake (never again will I openly sigh) OMG did he start shouting at me like it was all my own fault for having them upstairs and that I didn't know how bad it was for him, and I should count myself lucky. (funny didn't feel very lucky having to trundle off upstairs with a belly full of stitches)
I understand he is going through a rougher time at the moment and breathing issues and weakness are a big issue at present which are being addressed, but what am I to do.
He ended the rant with "I am never going to use that commode again, if I sh*t my pants then its tough, and if you can't cope with this then find me someone who can"
I can cope with "This" but can't cope with his shouting at me because of his frustration,I too get frustrated but don't we all without the Anger !
We spoke after an uncomfortable hour of silence, there was no apology as he never seems to think he has said anything hurtful, and he doesn't want carers so what am I to do xxx Ang
He needed to get onto the commode which I got then helped him transfer to but that didn't seem quick enough or good enough because he didn't go straight away, so now he wanted a suppository (no probs) I sighed to myself because this meant I had to go upstairs for one. Big mistake (never again will I openly sigh) OMG did he start shouting at me like it was all my own fault for having them upstairs and that I didn't know how bad it was for him, and I should count myself lucky. (funny didn't feel very lucky having to trundle off upstairs with a belly full of stitches)
I understand he is going through a rougher time at the moment and breathing issues and weakness are a big issue at present which are being addressed, but what am I to do.
He ended the rant with "I am never going to use that commode again, if I sh*t my pants then its tough, and if you can't cope with this then find me someone who can"
I can cope with "This" but can't cope with his shouting at me because of his frustration,I too get frustrated but don't we all without the Anger !
We spoke after an uncomfortable hour of silence, there was no apology as he never seems to think he has said anything hurtful, and he doesn't want carers so what am I to do xxx Ang