Marcia,
This is a crazy road to be on. I too like you had and still do have many questions.
My moms tube was placed on Oct. 5th, might I add with very little instructions. My mom was in terrible pain and her hospice nurse (who is no longer :>) ) was no help.
From what I am getting, these tubes will leak. Moms seem to leak a slimy greenish yuck --- sorry for being graffic. This I was told was/is NORMAL. Not normal in my book but....
Once we, Dad and I mastered how to feed her things are running much better in that area. Mom can not feed herself, her fingers are too weak to flip the cap on the tube.
Sad story, my dad and my mom grew up with having to struggle. Very little money. Dad and Mom got a Foundation business going and did very well for themselves. They no longer worried about paying bills and whatever they wanted they bought. Now they did not flash their wealth, no fancy cars, no expensive trips or cruises and their house was NORMAL. In fact I am shocked at how much they really do/did have. They were able to retire early and figured they both have ALWAYS been healthy, so they chose to not get prescription insurance. Well mom just celebrated her 64th birthday and the no presription coverage is now biting them in the butt, big time.
Rilutek, $900.00 a month. Her Neurologist told us Monday, that taking this will prolong being put on a vent. ONE MONTH. Her and I talked (a little) today and she said she thought it would prolong this for a few years. She did not say if she will continue after this bottle is empty, but she did say the one month was not worth it.
PulmoCare, $85.00 per case. High calories with all kinds of good stuff for her but she is taking 4 feeds a day plus still a little eating by mouth. No presription coverage... Another nibble on the butt. Mom also seen her Pulmonologist on Monday and he told her she should stop all foods and liquids through her mouth. She was crushed, clamed right up. Depressed and I can't blame her, she was diagnosed ONLY 5 months ago. It seems to me she is going down hill fast very fast. Oh how I wish someone could say how long she will be made to suffer with this cruel disease.
I forgot to mention these tube feedings are really not changing the scale. Mom is at a whopping 98 lbs. what a fatty, huh?
My daughter will graduate from High school this year, this is suppose to be a special time but I'm afraid it is going to be a very hard up coming year. Do I hope mom is still with us at Graduatio? Do I pray God takes her to a better place? Will "the end" of her life be right at Graduation? Sometimes I have to wonder how much more God thinks I can handle. Just for the record I wish he would stop making that decision for me. LOL I think I have had enough.....
So Marcia, I will continue to love mom with all of my heart and be there for dad/mom as long as they need/want me to be.
Thank you to all for being such wonderful support. PAT: I am going to try to give you a call tomorrow or tomorrow night. I really hope you are around.
Good night & Sweet dreams to all,
Shelly