My mother presented with Bulbar onset in July of this year (slight difficulty swallowing and minor speech issues) and by December 1st she was completely incapacitated and needed full time around the clock care (she died on Tuesday the 13th) so I suppose that my mother's case is one of "worst case scenario" so I don't think it would help to share that part with your relative. I can help you with some suggestions for speech and choking. Firstly, while a speech therapist may not be able to help with your relative's speech problems at this stage they can help with alternatives such as speech aids and instruction on how to communicate by means other than vocal speech. Secondly, choking: there are four things that can help with choking issues. The first is a portable suction machine. A portable suction machine works like the ones that dentists use but much, much smaller and they can be used to help control saliva and phlegm that can cause choking due to the inability to swallow. The second is secretion control through medications such as glycopyrrolate which inhibits the production of saliva. lizzie11957 suggested a cough assist and while they do help with the cough reflex that aids in removing obstruction forom the throat, they sometyimes require a second party to operate and can be very uncomfortable to use as they operate by aggressively pulling the air from the lungs. The third is to alter your relative's diet. This is a trial and error method since different people have problems swallowing foods depending on its texture. One of the things that helps is when drinking liquids try juices that are of nectar (thicker) consistency as thicker liquids tend to be easier to swallow than thinner ones. This can be done by adding rice cereal (found in the baby section of any market) to beverages in order to thicken them. For eating, preparing food in small, easy to swallow peices can help and failing that you can give soup and if its too thin it can be thickened using instant potato flakes. The fourth option, which I suggest only if other eating options aren't working, is undergoing a PEG procedure which is having a feeding tube placed. Essentially, a feeding tube is surgically inserted through the abdominal wall and into the stomach allowing food, fluids and medications to be administered directly through the tube to the stomach. As you relative is elderly, Medicare covers nearly everything a patient would need for the treatment of ALS including home healthcare and hospice (when its time) and the MDA/ALS Association also helps to cover costs, they did in my mother's case.
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