Dear catcaniac,
Regarding back pain, are you placing a pillow under his knees? As this has progressed I've had to change the size of pillow, and went from a feather filled (dense and flat) "boudoir pillow" to a big square European pillow, which goes under my knees, extending to my feet, which drop off into space. Also, raising both foot and head, experimenting with the degree of angle makes a huge difference.
I did have that kind of experience you endured yesterday. It's a total misrepresentation of the Lord in my opinion. I'd written about that subject in the Christian thread and am including it here so you have no need to try and find it:
It is heartbreaking to learn of PALS who want to believe that God always wants to heal here on earth, even to the point that it's a sin not to believe that Jesus came specifically in order to physically heal all. In fact, that was NOT His mission. All His miracles were performed in order to show that He is the Savior from Sin, the Deliverer to Eternal Life. He made this clear when he healed the paralytic in Matthew chapter 9.
Matthew 9:5
"Which is easier, to say, ' Your sins are forgiven,' or to say, 'Get up, and walk'?
Obviously anyone can say, "Your sins are forgiven". Jesus proved His Godhood by the miracles, that His salvation also would be understood.
Luke 9:23-24
23And He was saying to them all, "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.
24"For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it.
Philippians 3.17-21 speaks to our reception of the cross.
17Brethren, join in following my example, and observe those who walk according to the pattern you have in us.
18For many walk, of whom I often told you, and now tell you even weeping, that they are enemies of the cross of Christ,
19whose end is destruction, whose god is their appetite, and whose glory is in their shame, who set their minds on earthly things.
20For our citizenship is in heaven, from which also we eagerly wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ;
21who will transform the body of our humble state into conformity with the body of His glory, by the exertion of the power that He has even to subject all things to Himself.
catcaniac, please suggest to your husband that merely trusting the Lord rather than being offended (I realize this can be a very difficult thing) is in itself glorifying to God. I pray you will both know His supply for every need... and we know it normally comes at the time it's absolutely needed, and not before. His peace is my prayer for you both.