Loverly
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Oct 28, 2014
- Messages
- 197
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Country
- US
- State
- CA
- City
- Orange County
Hello Everyone,
I've been thinking of you all, but wrapped up in our latest medical drama.
You might recall that my dad was in the hospital for GI bleeding that was incorrectly diagnosed as Prostate Cancer. Thought that the good news was going to be the turning point, but he has been very sick.
It took almost 4 weeks to find and stop the bleeding. He was dangerously close to bleeding out several times, catheters and IVs in every possible point of entry to push blood products into him. Doctors telling us that his gut was so destroyed by previous radiation treatments that even if they could find the bleed, he might not survive a surgery and not even knowing if there was enough healthy tissue to operate on.
He survived that, but now has C. Diff and sepsis. Took him to the ER Saturday morning. Thought he was having a stroke. Turns out it was extreme hypoglycemia, so no they are trying to find a new normal for that.
Yeast populating all over him. C. diff eating holes in his perineum.
I don't even know if he has brushed his teeth in the last few weeks.
Now it's May and I feel like I'm going to lose an entire year. I feel selfish and hostile and disappointed in myself for feeling this way.
I am much angrier with him than I was with Kathy. But I'm angry with her too, for leaving me with all this mess to deal with.
In the ER Saturday, we were right by the room where Kathy was treated for the last time. I saw the same nurses and doctors. It was heart-wrenching.
I feel lost.
Thank God for my mother, who came and unpacked so many boxes and set up my kitchen. I'd be eating from paper plates without her. She even cleaned up Dad and called the EMTs when his hemoglobin dropped below 5 and I was still at work (they have been divorced for 20 years).
What do I do?
Jen
I've been thinking of you all, but wrapped up in our latest medical drama.
You might recall that my dad was in the hospital for GI bleeding that was incorrectly diagnosed as Prostate Cancer. Thought that the good news was going to be the turning point, but he has been very sick.
It took almost 4 weeks to find and stop the bleeding. He was dangerously close to bleeding out several times, catheters and IVs in every possible point of entry to push blood products into him. Doctors telling us that his gut was so destroyed by previous radiation treatments that even if they could find the bleed, he might not survive a surgery and not even knowing if there was enough healthy tissue to operate on.
He survived that, but now has C. Diff and sepsis. Took him to the ER Saturday morning. Thought he was having a stroke. Turns out it was extreme hypoglycemia, so no they are trying to find a new normal for that.
Yeast populating all over him. C. diff eating holes in his perineum.
I don't even know if he has brushed his teeth in the last few weeks.
Now it's May and I feel like I'm going to lose an entire year. I feel selfish and hostile and disappointed in myself for feeling this way.
I am much angrier with him than I was with Kathy. But I'm angry with her too, for leaving me with all this mess to deal with.
In the ER Saturday, we were right by the room where Kathy was treated for the last time. I saw the same nurses and doctors. It was heart-wrenching.
I feel lost.
Thank God for my mother, who came and unpacked so many boxes and set up my kitchen. I'd be eating from paper plates without her. She even cleaned up Dad and called the EMTs when his hemoglobin dropped below 5 and I was still at work (they have been divorced for 20 years).
What do I do?
Jen