Chase_Corin
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Nov 24, 2010
- Messages
- 135
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 11/2010
- Country
- CA
- State
- On
- City
- Perth, Ontario
When dad passed on October 31st, 2012 life changed for me and mom expanentially.
For over three years dad had depended on us for anything from helping him lift things at first to him being almost fully dependant on us for his daily upkeep.
Since dad passed we have been in a fog, working on all the paperwork for insurance and death benifits and things along with bank accounts and his will. Mom has depended on me a lot but it only seems that together we have one real functioning brain between us.
My brother has tried to help but he had to go back to work realy soon after dad's passing because he is freelance basically. He dosn't like coming to the house because the whole place reminds him of dad. I feel the same dad is ingrained in the woodwork here litterally because he was the person who made the cabinets and all the woodwork in the house.
We are trying to sell dad's truck because none of us can deal with driving it full time. However selling a truck in the middle of the winter is kinda hard.
Now it's just days before Christmas and I feel like heck. I have no motivation, no real feeling of wanting to do anything and I know everyone says 'its okay, it will come. Don't worry about this year, you've had too much on your minds'
Except you feel like its wrong not to want to participate in Christmas. Last Christmas Dad supervised me and my brother taking apart an old pressboard TV surround in order to suprise my mom with a new TV. And I went out and got presents for my mom and brother from dad and he was able to tell me exactly what he wanted them to get.
Before dad passed I told him of somthing mom saw in an antique shop that she really liked. After he passed I went to try to get it for her and it was gone. I feel like Christmas is going to be disapointing for her, for all of us.
I knew this would be hard but this feels like way too much
I have things that need to be finnished for gifts and I have absolutely no ambition to do any of it. On top of it we have some relatives that have invited themselves over next thursday. So all the cleaning and things we now have to do, I am just so overwhelmed. We still have to wrap up things from dad's death, its just neverending. Some days I want to just crawl back into bed and leave the world behind.
For over three years dad had depended on us for anything from helping him lift things at first to him being almost fully dependant on us for his daily upkeep.
Since dad passed we have been in a fog, working on all the paperwork for insurance and death benifits and things along with bank accounts and his will. Mom has depended on me a lot but it only seems that together we have one real functioning brain between us.
My brother has tried to help but he had to go back to work realy soon after dad's passing because he is freelance basically. He dosn't like coming to the house because the whole place reminds him of dad. I feel the same dad is ingrained in the woodwork here litterally because he was the person who made the cabinets and all the woodwork in the house.
We are trying to sell dad's truck because none of us can deal with driving it full time. However selling a truck in the middle of the winter is kinda hard.
Now it's just days before Christmas and I feel like heck. I have no motivation, no real feeling of wanting to do anything and I know everyone says 'its okay, it will come. Don't worry about this year, you've had too much on your minds'
Except you feel like its wrong not to want to participate in Christmas. Last Christmas Dad supervised me and my brother taking apart an old pressboard TV surround in order to suprise my mom with a new TV. And I went out and got presents for my mom and brother from dad and he was able to tell me exactly what he wanted them to get.
Before dad passed I told him of somthing mom saw in an antique shop that she really liked. After he passed I went to try to get it for her and it was gone. I feel like Christmas is going to be disapointing for her, for all of us.
I knew this would be hard but this feels like way too much
I have things that need to be finnished for gifts and I have absolutely no ambition to do any of it. On top of it we have some relatives that have invited themselves over next thursday. So all the cleaning and things we now have to do, I am just so overwhelmed. We still have to wrap up things from dad's death, its just neverending. Some days I want to just crawl back into bed and leave the world behind.