Jason's Dream
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Okay, thought it would be theraputic to list all the things we hate. Like what people say to us, how we are treated, ,... everything!
I'll start:
I HATE:
1.) When someone says they understand. How could they possible UNDERSTAND? Especially when I don't UNDERSTAND!
2.) When someone tells me "Don't be like that". I love how everyone seems to be expert in how I should grief when they have not lost thier sweetheart at such a young age and the father of thier 2 small children.
3.) When people promise things and then don't deliver.
4.) When people make plans with you, and then "something comes up".
5.) "He's in a better place."
6.) Bullying me into "getting back into the swing of things".
7.) People stealing from the dead, or the terminally ill.
8.) People wanting to pay thier condolences now. - Thats what the viewing/funeral was for.
9.) People wanting to "cheer me up" by thier ("he's in a better place" blah blah blah) platitudes when I am just wanting to be out and shopping.
10.) How little Social Security values the life of our dear loved ones.
11.) Someone telling you, your spouse wouldn't want you to be like this... Really? Like you knew my spouse? .. Like I knew him?... I lived and breathed together with him for the past 8 years... what makes you an expert on my spouse?
12.) People putting my sweetheart on a pedestal, when he was just human.
13.) People saying I am strong and amazing... when I am not strong, not amazing, not doing okay.. am crumbling here, but they don't take the time to see and be there for me...
... I'll write more later.
What are yours?
I'll start:
I HATE:
1.) When someone says they understand. How could they possible UNDERSTAND? Especially when I don't UNDERSTAND!
2.) When someone tells me "Don't be like that". I love how everyone seems to be expert in how I should grief when they have not lost thier sweetheart at such a young age and the father of thier 2 small children.
3.) When people promise things and then don't deliver.
4.) When people make plans with you, and then "something comes up".
5.) "He's in a better place."
6.) Bullying me into "getting back into the swing of things".
7.) People stealing from the dead, or the terminally ill.
8.) People wanting to pay thier condolences now. - Thats what the viewing/funeral was for.
9.) People wanting to "cheer me up" by thier ("he's in a better place" blah blah blah) platitudes when I am just wanting to be out and shopping.
10.) How little Social Security values the life of our dear loved ones.
11.) Someone telling you, your spouse wouldn't want you to be like this... Really? Like you knew my spouse? .. Like I knew him?... I lived and breathed together with him for the past 8 years... what makes you an expert on my spouse?
12.) People putting my sweetheart on a pedestal, when he was just human.
13.) People saying I am strong and amazing... when I am not strong, not amazing, not doing okay.. am crumbling here, but they don't take the time to see and be there for me...
... I'll write more later.
What are yours?