Jason's Dream
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My mom will board a plane to join my Dad 3 time zones away, in a matter of hours, on the 19 week anniversary of Jason's death. She's essentially already MIA. Not spending time with her grandson who has lost his Dad to death at such a young age, lost his grandpa to a job 3 time zones away, and is now about to lose his grandma to his grandpa's beckoning. He's gonna go through hell tomorrow, and I can't keep him from even more hurt, and it breaks my heart. Little Katie will be soo lost without her grandma, as she has taken care of Katie while I was caring for Jason. Grandma is one of thier main person in thier life, and again, they are about to face losing yet another person in a matter of hours. Makes me angry that she is putting my kids through this. When we talked about when I would be "ready" to be on my own , there were a ton of things that I needed to get done, to feel safe and comfortable to try to face this scary new future as a single mom of two alone. None of it is done, and now I have all of it to do on my own, and take care of 2 children, and try to keep up on making meals, laundry, and dishes, etc. I know this doesn't sound like much to you, but for me, I am more then overwhelmed, and already defeated and she isn't even physically gone, but might as well be. I thought when Jason died, dad would quit his job and come back here, and then when I had appointments, that they could watch them for that long, etc. This is more then I can handle, and I know it, and am scared to death! But, it feels like all they care about, is them spending time together. It feels very selfish, when I am soo in over my head, not to mention, I am emotionally crap. I can't do this and I know I can't. Everyone expects me to do this, but I'm not that person, I'm not that strong, and no one really knows how horrible I am doing or feeling inside.
Sorry for this emotional fall out, rant.
I am just scared, mad, overwhelmed, in over my head, angry, hurting, and abandoned.. per usual.
~ Becca
Sorry for this emotional fall out, rant.
I am just scared, mad, overwhelmed, in over my head, angry, hurting, and abandoned.. per usual.
~ Becca