I know this is a bit off topic but reading what some of us are doing after the death of a loved one made me want to add something. My oldest daughter's 19 year old best friend died in a car accident 6 years ago - no fault of hers. They went to school together and then University together. We knew her parents of course and over time see them once in a while - her dad does our taxes! Anyway, Madeline was buried in a graveyard in the town she group up. Her dad has gone to the gravesite every day since she passed - clears snow, leaves, etc. just visits. Her mum is still in a state of denial - I'm not sure what kind of denial but she's dealing with her grief in her own way. She has not been back to the gravesite ever, hasn't driven past the accident site (has to detour to get to their home) and although there are pictures all over their home of Madeline, her mum said she never looks at them because if she does, she knows that that's all she has and that Madeline won't come home. In her mind she knows she's passed, but still somehow doesn't fully acknowledge it. Very different in the same family. All very sad.