Rounder78
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Hi All
My mother was diagnosed w/ ALS yesterday. Well technically she was told ALS on 5/11/15 at UW-Madison, but we wanted a 2nd opinion and received that at the Mayo Clinic. Shocked, disbelief and devastation are a couple things that come to mind. I am the middle child and the only one who lives in another time zone. My mom's started having issues 3+ years ago. Like many, she had every test under the sun, including a back surgery. I was amazed how many doctors she saw prior to those at UW-Madison and Mayo who never said a word about ALS. I guess I got worried when her speech started to slur (about 9 months ago, almost like she had a stroke). I am really not a blogger or overly an open person, but I don't know what to do, so I am here to vent and seek advice. My brother and I both asked the doctor about where she was in the progress of the disease. He wouldn't say, other than the standard 3-5 years. OK, well is that 3-5 years from today, is that 3-5 years from when the symptom started? Any insight would be greatly appreciated, because I think we want to be rational about this and know what we are facing.
So a couple quick questions, any answers would be great.
1. My Mom is terrified. The doctor didn't give much in terms of things to do, other than support groups. Should she look for these solely online? Local? Are there groups out there that go deeper than a blog like this where folks are interact on a more personal level (do people make connections like that one here?). I am just looking for the best place for her to spend some time being proactive (vs. the doom/gloom that is ALS).
2. As noted above, my Mom's speech is pretty slurred. She can walk with a walker, but the weakness started in the legs. Her arms seem ok, she does say her swallowing has decreased. I don't know if this slow progressing or fast (relative to initial complaints). Thoughts?
3. Obviously I am terrified for my Mom, but I am also really concerned for my Dad. He has been trying to do everything. I told him today that he can't take this on all by himself. He isn't real big on the internet, but are there forums or information out there that I can provide him. I know he is devastated and I want to be there for him however I can.
4. Middle child, living far from home. I am sure some of you are/have been in my boat. What in the world do I do? My two brothers are local and I am sure will do whatever they can, but I obviously can not be there. My Mom and I facetime all the time (mostly so she can see her 19 month old granddaughter), but I feel like I have to do more. Any advice on how to handle a tough situation from afar would be great.
5. Medicare / Supplement Insurance - My Mom is currently on my Dad's insurance, but will soon be going on Medicare. What does it cover? What should we look for in a supplemental plan? Concerns/Suggestions/etc?
I still don't think reality has hit me. I am going to see my Mom next week, I am sure it will hit then. If this is the hand that is dealt, I just want to do everything/anything I can to help a terrible situation. It's my Mom, I don't know what I will do without her.
Thanks for your time all..... I thank you all in advance for any responses/suggestions.
-M
My mother was diagnosed w/ ALS yesterday. Well technically she was told ALS on 5/11/15 at UW-Madison, but we wanted a 2nd opinion and received that at the Mayo Clinic. Shocked, disbelief and devastation are a couple things that come to mind. I am the middle child and the only one who lives in another time zone. My mom's started having issues 3+ years ago. Like many, she had every test under the sun, including a back surgery. I was amazed how many doctors she saw prior to those at UW-Madison and Mayo who never said a word about ALS. I guess I got worried when her speech started to slur (about 9 months ago, almost like she had a stroke). I am really not a blogger or overly an open person, but I don't know what to do, so I am here to vent and seek advice. My brother and I both asked the doctor about where she was in the progress of the disease. He wouldn't say, other than the standard 3-5 years. OK, well is that 3-5 years from today, is that 3-5 years from when the symptom started? Any insight would be greatly appreciated, because I think we want to be rational about this and know what we are facing.
So a couple quick questions, any answers would be great.
1. My Mom is terrified. The doctor didn't give much in terms of things to do, other than support groups. Should she look for these solely online? Local? Are there groups out there that go deeper than a blog like this where folks are interact on a more personal level (do people make connections like that one here?). I am just looking for the best place for her to spend some time being proactive (vs. the doom/gloom that is ALS).
2. As noted above, my Mom's speech is pretty slurred. She can walk with a walker, but the weakness started in the legs. Her arms seem ok, she does say her swallowing has decreased. I don't know if this slow progressing or fast (relative to initial complaints). Thoughts?
3. Obviously I am terrified for my Mom, but I am also really concerned for my Dad. He has been trying to do everything. I told him today that he can't take this on all by himself. He isn't real big on the internet, but are there forums or information out there that I can provide him. I know he is devastated and I want to be there for him however I can.
4. Middle child, living far from home. I am sure some of you are/have been in my boat. What in the world do I do? My two brothers are local and I am sure will do whatever they can, but I obviously can not be there. My Mom and I facetime all the time (mostly so she can see her 19 month old granddaughter), but I feel like I have to do more. Any advice on how to handle a tough situation from afar would be great.
5. Medicare / Supplement Insurance - My Mom is currently on my Dad's insurance, but will soon be going on Medicare. What does it cover? What should we look for in a supplemental plan? Concerns/Suggestions/etc?
I still don't think reality has hit me. I am going to see my Mom next week, I am sure it will hit then. If this is the hand that is dealt, I just want to do everything/anything I can to help a terrible situation. It's my Mom, I don't know what I will do without her.
Thanks for your time all..... I thank you all in advance for any responses/suggestions.
-M