Re: Want to give sister a spa "day"
Hello new friends. Thanks to all who answered - I appreciate your advice. It seems this may not be a good idea at all, as she is having so many troubles the past few days. She is only 57. It all started with trouble speaking, so her voice, throat, and facial features no longer work properly. She mixes up yes and no, so it's very difficult to know if she means what she appears to be "saying". She can walk, slowly, but has fallen lately. The walker and chair are now at home, but she won't use them yet. She can not communicate. The expensive computer that should help her is difficult for any of us to figure out, and so complicated to form simple thoughts, that it's not used. We've got a communication board ordered. She has a feeding tube but is having difficulty breathing. There is talk of a tracheotomy. I'm in another state with three kids and have not seen her since new years. We will visit next week, and have been told its best to visit one at a time, as she's easily exhausted. I'm so sad. So angry. So helpless. I'm the fixer in our family, but this is not fixable. I appreciate you hearing me out. This is a really lonely road, and just having a place to write and perhaps be heard is comforting. Thanks again. So I will not hire anyone, but will get flowers, a pretty smelly candle, oils, and give her my own version of afoot and leg massage, as I don't feel a stranger will be welcome, and I don't want to upset her. Especially since no one really knows what she is feeling, or how to read her reactions. I will update, and continue reading through this site for information that could possibly guide me more wisely. Thanks!
