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A few weeks ago my husband died, just days before our 23rd wedding anniversary. I still can't believe it. I am so sad, so angry. I'm 51 and a widow. My kids don't have a father. I don't know what our lives will be like without him.

He was diagnosed with progressive bulbar palsy in December 2015, and I knew that he wouldn't be with us long. But still, I was shocked when he died. I screamed at him and begged him not to leave me, but he left. I just want him back.

He died at home like he wanted. He refused medical intervention. He is not suffering anymore. But our family suffers. My son wants his dad at his high school graduation in June. My daughter pretends that all is normal when she is up pain.

When will this sadness lessen???

My heart is broken. 💜
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So sorry to hear of your loss, Bexlil. I know you are still in the keen part of grief, and it seems impossible that you will ever not feel sad and angry. But as each day goes by, you will edge closer to the peace of knowing that your husband passed as he wished and what your family had together can still be the foundation for your path forward, each of you. As Tillie says, get whatever help you need for yourself and the kids, and keep talking with each other.

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So sorry for your loss. I will be in your shoes in several months. I don't know how I will react when it actually happens. It seems nothing prepares you for that moment. I think what is most shocking about death is how final it is.
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I am so very sorry. I wish I could find words that would ease the pain in your heart and soul. The pain of your loss and the pain you feel for your children may just be to much for you right now. Like Tillie said, a grief counselor may be able to help you some. You and your children are in my thoughts. Please take care of yourself.
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