KatBee
Member
- Joined
- Dec 4, 2015
- Messages
- 19
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 10/2013
- Country
- CA
- State
- Ontario
- City
- Ottawa
Hi friends,
I've been MIA for a long time, but my mom was relatively stable. A slow and steady decline, but nothing that limited her abilities much beyond where we were in the fall.
But suddenly there were some noticeable changes in the last few weeks, culminating in a huge change today. I couldn't really convince her to wake up and the way she was sleeping was not normal -- eyes open, face sunken-looking, didn't wake up easily. Eventually I got her sitting up and having some fluids and a bit of yogourt, but her speech never got strong all day. And it was fine until a few days ago. But now it's gasp-y and very sparse.
I called a nurse to come sort of on an emergency basis and he did a bunch of assessments and called mom's primary care provider and home care agency for us basically to tell them it's time to really step things up.
Until tonight mom's been able to spend nights by herself. She lives in a bachelor apartment, so it's not super feasible for me to spend nights here -- but I am tonight, obviously, now that she can't leave her bed.
She looks like she's dying. The way her face is.
But I'm feeling really out to sea here. My mom never wanted to get to this stage of the disease -- we have a legal application in the works to allow her to access physician-assisted dying. So I feel extra unprepared for what to expect now... I hadn't asked much about it because her plan was never to let the disease itself kill her... the whole idea was to spare her that, but we just couldn't make it happen in time is it going to be awful?
My husband started packing up our apartment (across the country) today, we were planning for him to finally move out here since it looked like it was going to be yet another several months -- but now I don't know what's going on. So I think he's just going to fly here asap and we'll undo the moving arrangements we've made so far... maybe? I'm just rattling things off, this is so unexpected...
Mom's primary care provider is coming on Monday. I hope he's able to give me more information. But I expect that there's not much predicting or even treatment anyone can do... just hope for an easy let-down...
Does anyone have experience with the term "30% palliative" or "30% pps" or even 'bed-bound' and can you tell me what happened from there with your pals?
I've been MIA for a long time, but my mom was relatively stable. A slow and steady decline, but nothing that limited her abilities much beyond where we were in the fall.
But suddenly there were some noticeable changes in the last few weeks, culminating in a huge change today. I couldn't really convince her to wake up and the way she was sleeping was not normal -- eyes open, face sunken-looking, didn't wake up easily. Eventually I got her sitting up and having some fluids and a bit of yogourt, but her speech never got strong all day. And it was fine until a few days ago. But now it's gasp-y and very sparse.
I called a nurse to come sort of on an emergency basis and he did a bunch of assessments and called mom's primary care provider and home care agency for us basically to tell them it's time to really step things up.
Until tonight mom's been able to spend nights by herself. She lives in a bachelor apartment, so it's not super feasible for me to spend nights here -- but I am tonight, obviously, now that she can't leave her bed.
She looks like she's dying. The way her face is.
But I'm feeling really out to sea here. My mom never wanted to get to this stage of the disease -- we have a legal application in the works to allow her to access physician-assisted dying. So I feel extra unprepared for what to expect now... I hadn't asked much about it because her plan was never to let the disease itself kill her... the whole idea was to spare her that, but we just couldn't make it happen in time is it going to be awful?
My husband started packing up our apartment (across the country) today, we were planning for him to finally move out here since it looked like it was going to be yet another several months -- but now I don't know what's going on. So I think he's just going to fly here asap and we'll undo the moving arrangements we've made so far... maybe? I'm just rattling things off, this is so unexpected...
Mom's primary care provider is coming on Monday. I hope he's able to give me more information. But I expect that there's not much predicting or even treatment anyone can do... just hope for an easy let-down...
Does anyone have experience with the term "30% palliative" or "30% pps" or even 'bed-bound' and can you tell me what happened from there with your pals?