Barbie
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- 01/2007
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I can't believe that I am posting in this section...my beautiful husband, Lonny, died suddenly this morning at 11:10 am.
he seemed to rally last week but then on Saturday started feeling weak again. Sunday was a bad day--no crisis but so weak and could not enjoy a family dinner that we had. Monday and Tuesday were weak but not significant. The hospice nurse said she was going to make her regular visit on Wednesday morning so I stayed home to meet her. He had told me when h got up that he slept badly and wanted an Ativan and to stay on the trilogy. he fell asleep in his chair and seemed so weak. She really was not concerned about him and did not think that we were at the end. after she left, my oldest daughter called and said she had been in a very bad accident and was at the hospital. (she is ok and at home now)
I left and rushed across town to the hospital and left Lonny with his nurse and his visiting sister. I did not tell him about the accident because I didn't want him to worry until I knew the details. the hospital was 45 minutes away and just as I arrived the nurse called me. I was so flustered by the accident I hung up on her and then my sister in law called. I hung up on her. then my oldest son called and I took the call. he asked about his sister and then said what happen to dad? I freaked out and he said, his younger brother had just called--the nurse had just let him know tat he had died right after I left.
He had woken up after I left and took off his trilogy. he was talking to the nurse, smiling and laughing and asked for a shower. she bathed him and then left him to soak for a couple of minutes (his favorite thing to do) she walked back in to the shower after about 3 minutes and he was dead.
my God, I can't believe this. it is so shocking. I knew that it was coming but did not expect this today--I figured we had a few weeks left. I actually had made an appointment at the funeral home for tomorrow to preplan...
I am beyond shocked, beyond sad, so so so numb right now.
love you all.
he seemed to rally last week but then on Saturday started feeling weak again. Sunday was a bad day--no crisis but so weak and could not enjoy a family dinner that we had. Monday and Tuesday were weak but not significant. The hospice nurse said she was going to make her regular visit on Wednesday morning so I stayed home to meet her. He had told me when h got up that he slept badly and wanted an Ativan and to stay on the trilogy. he fell asleep in his chair and seemed so weak. She really was not concerned about him and did not think that we were at the end. after she left, my oldest daughter called and said she had been in a very bad accident and was at the hospital. (she is ok and at home now)
I left and rushed across town to the hospital and left Lonny with his nurse and his visiting sister. I did not tell him about the accident because I didn't want him to worry until I knew the details. the hospital was 45 minutes away and just as I arrived the nurse called me. I was so flustered by the accident I hung up on her and then my sister in law called. I hung up on her. then my oldest son called and I took the call. he asked about his sister and then said what happen to dad? I freaked out and he said, his younger brother had just called--the nurse had just let him know tat he had died right after I left.
He had woken up after I left and took off his trilogy. he was talking to the nurse, smiling and laughing and asked for a shower. she bathed him and then left him to soak for a couple of minutes (his favorite thing to do) she walked back in to the shower after about 3 minutes and he was dead.
my God, I can't believe this. it is so shocking. I knew that it was coming but did not expect this today--I figured we had a few weeks left. I actually had made an appointment at the funeral home for tomorrow to preplan...
I am beyond shocked, beyond sad, so so so numb right now.
love you all.