k600xlt
Member
- Joined
- Mar 18, 2010
- Messages
- 12
- Diagnosis
- 07/2009
- Country
- CA
- State
- Ontario
- City
- Echo Bay
My husband passed away Saturday morning. I took him to the hospital Friday night because he said his chest was feeling a little heavy. He had not been feeling good for about a week, but we thought he had a little bit of a cold that was going around. So when i took him to emerg. i thought they would just do a chest x-ray to find out if he had pneumonia again, which he had about 1 1/2 months ago. His oxygen level was low but they said his carbondioxide was high and he had pneumonia in his left long. They put him on oxygen and his count came up. He was alert and talking the best that he could which he was very hard to understand. The doctor told us that his muscles in his lungs had sugnificantly deteriated since the last time we were there and we should prepare ourselves for a trecheotomy in the near future. So they started him on antibiotics and told us that they were going to keep him in for a couple days to make sure his oxygen level regulates and stays level. He went to sleep around 2 in the morning, the nurse would come in and check on him and his blood pressure was better and everything. About 7 in the morning she came in again to take his vitals and they were good. I said he must have been tired, they asked me if he usually slept that good, and i said not in the last week cause he wasn't feeling good so he must need this sleep. Around 9 i knew something wasn't right, cause even on a good night he usually didn't sleep more then 6-7 hours, so i tried waking him up and he wouldn't wake. He was still breathing but not responding. I went and got the nurse and she came in and tried to wake him up, and again he wouldn't. So i tried and he opened his eyes a little, so i asked him if he could hear me to blink his eyes and his eyebrows moved a little. At that time the doctor came in and my husband would still not respond. So the doctor said that he was not getting enough oxygen and the only thing to do was to intubate him. Well i said no because my husband had a DNR. He then said they could try the bi-pap machine so he sent for the respetory therapist. When they came i was still trying to wake him up and was crying telling him to wake up. I was hugging him and the doctor said i would have to move so they could get him ready and i told them no it was to late he was gone, his fingernails were blue. And i said it again, and he was gone. This is the hardest thing that i am going through.
Sorry for rambling on but i have a question, is this possible because i am blaming myself for not properly taking care of him. It happened so fast and i don't know if that is possible. Could someone let me know. Don't they have to many more stages to go through first. he was still walking with the aid of a walker outside the house. He was diagnosed July 2009. Please, please can someone tell me i am not going crazy.......trying to blame myself.
Sorry for rambling on but i have a question, is this possible because i am blaming myself for not properly taking care of him. It happened so fast and i don't know if that is possible. Could someone let me know. Don't they have to many more stages to go through first. he was still walking with the aid of a walker outside the house. He was diagnosed July 2009. Please, please can someone tell me i am not going crazy.......trying to blame myself.