I felt honored and relieved today to hear from my husband's best friend. He wanted to come see me and apologized for his absence and silence.
Without getting into the details, it seems he's been having problems since the death of my husband, as his pain was so great that he became reticent. As he put it, my husband was the only one he could really talk to and now he is gone. As he spoke to me about his situation, he became emotional (missing my husband) and we both had a little cry. He told me his problem (unrelated to death of his best friend) seemed trivial in comparison to what I had been through, nonetheless, he was suffering deeply.
Although I know I could never replace my husband or the bond they shared, I felt privileged that this man thought enough of me to share his pain. I told him that life goes on and even though my husband died, it doesn't mean I've lost interest or concern for those that meant so much to both of us and that I was here to listen to him anytime. He told me he was so relieved to have been able to talk to someone. I'm glad that someone was me.
Without getting into the details, it seems he's been having problems since the death of my husband, as his pain was so great that he became reticent. As he put it, my husband was the only one he could really talk to and now he is gone. As he spoke to me about his situation, he became emotional (missing my husband) and we both had a little cry. He told me his problem (unrelated to death of his best friend) seemed trivial in comparison to what I had been through, nonetheless, he was suffering deeply.
Although I know I could never replace my husband or the bond they shared, I felt privileged that this man thought enough of me to share his pain. I told him that life goes on and even though my husband died, it doesn't mean I've lost interest or concern for those that meant so much to both of us and that I was here to listen to him anytime. He told me he was so relieved to have been able to talk to someone. I'm glad that someone was me.
