poppy62
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jul 3, 2012
- Messages
- 132
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 05/2012
- Country
- uk
- State
- mid glamorgan
- City
- caerphilly
After several nasty choking episodes this last week, hubby is scared worse than ever to try and eat and drink.
This is the second day of very poor intake, his wee is darker, output is lot less.
His eyes are starting to look sunken.
His feet look a bit fatter.
I'm scared some serious dehydration is looming.
He desperately wants to drink but can't overcome his fear of choking enough to at least try often. Now he can't have a peg, gone too far, and he won't have a tube. He is still refusing treatment and is adamant he is not leaving the house.
He is extremely tired, very uncomfortable physically, and is sleeping a fair bit off and on. In the bed, in the chair or on the couch. His mobility is declining now day by day.
He won't try taking any meds, he is scared of side effects. He is refusing everything I suggest and attacking me verbally for trying to help him be comfy, says I have no idea, and he's right, I don't but I see an awful lot and I'm here 24/7 and I'm trying. His stock answer now is I can't swallow - how would you like to choke? like it's my fault..
This situation is tearing me apart. I need to help him but don't know how. Our mnd nurse is on sick for the forseeable future.
It's a toss up who to ring, hospice or gp? or both?
but what can they do to help? He is lost in the depths of it, I feel I have lost him already...
Are there any cals out there who had pals like mine? How can I help him?
This is the second day of very poor intake, his wee is darker, output is lot less.
His eyes are starting to look sunken.
His feet look a bit fatter.
I'm scared some serious dehydration is looming.
He desperately wants to drink but can't overcome his fear of choking enough to at least try often. Now he can't have a peg, gone too far, and he won't have a tube. He is still refusing treatment and is adamant he is not leaving the house.
He is extremely tired, very uncomfortable physically, and is sleeping a fair bit off and on. In the bed, in the chair or on the couch. His mobility is declining now day by day.
He won't try taking any meds, he is scared of side effects. He is refusing everything I suggest and attacking me verbally for trying to help him be comfy, says I have no idea, and he's right, I don't but I see an awful lot and I'm here 24/7 and I'm trying. His stock answer now is I can't swallow - how would you like to choke? like it's my fault..
This situation is tearing me apart. I need to help him but don't know how. Our mnd nurse is on sick for the forseeable future.
It's a toss up who to ring, hospice or gp? or both?
but what can they do to help? He is lost in the depths of it, I feel I have lost him already...
Are there any cals out there who had pals like mine? How can I help him?