Cammarak
Active member
- Joined
- Sep 24, 2014
- Messages
- 77
- Reason
- PALS
- Diagnosis
- 06/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- NY
- City
- Williamsville
Hey, everyone! So much has changed for me in the last year--had to "retire" from my job of 27 years (I'm on disability--ugh!!!) and I've been trying to channel my energy into caring for my family. My kids are 21, 19, and 17 and don't NEED me like they did when they were children, but they appreciate having me around whenever they need something, or a mother's support or advice. I try to take care of the house, our pets, feeding the family, paying the bills, etc, but I'm getting to the point where I can't do things anymore. I lost the use of my shoulder muscles, and although I'm still "strong like bull" I'm struggling with everyday tasks. We want to keep this house until my 17 yr old graduates next year, but I'm increasingly unable to care for things.my plan is to buy my mom's house outright so we have no mortgage. But my husband doesn't want to do this. I feel we have no other choice. My kids all work and go to school full time and I don't want to put more on their plates. How do I convince my husband that I need this, and also that I'm moving into a phase where I'm becoming more "disabled" and need help. He is the greatest guy in the world and works hard to keep me included in the world, but I just don't feel like doing anything.