wendya432
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Sorry to make so many threads, just don't want to jam so much into one.
Just want to vent and get some advice.
My hubby just doesn't seem to understand or accept or something what is going on. I've tried to get him to read things online and he won't. And since I don't have a firm diagnosis yet (besides UMN problem which means nothing to him) sometimes I don't think he really believes me.
Like this weekend... I was able to help a lot cleaning out our storage. I went through boxes, etc. Not any heavy lifting, mostly just designating. But I used up every last bit of my strength. He was like, well I'm tired from it too. But it's so different than just being tired.
Then the next day I was able to use the hand held carpet cleaner for about 10 minutes. When I stopped my hand was just floppy and I couldn't undo the twist tie on the buns for lunch. He was like oh come on, you really can't do that? I said no, I really can't. My hand just wouldn't do anything anymore other than a weak grasp.
A lot of the housework isn't done like it used to be. I just don't have the endurance to have a perfectly clean house. I start things and don't have the strength to finish. Or I just don't even start them because I just can't.
I think he thinks I'm just being lazy.
When I don't sleep well because of the spasticity in my legs he always counters with "well I didn't sleep that well either"
I just wish I could have him be in this body for a day and see what it's like. I don't know how else I can convince him that I'm not doing well.
Don't get me wrong, he is a great guy and has helped pick up the slack in certain areas despite working long hours ona physically demanding job. But this just seems to be out of his grasp.
Anyting you guys have been able to do to help others underand?
and now I am done bee caus this is taking too long to correct and my fingers just don't want to push the keys anymore!
Just want to vent and get some advice.
My hubby just doesn't seem to understand or accept or something what is going on. I've tried to get him to read things online and he won't. And since I don't have a firm diagnosis yet (besides UMN problem which means nothing to him) sometimes I don't think he really believes me.
Like this weekend... I was able to help a lot cleaning out our storage. I went through boxes, etc. Not any heavy lifting, mostly just designating. But I used up every last bit of my strength. He was like, well I'm tired from it too. But it's so different than just being tired.
Then the next day I was able to use the hand held carpet cleaner for about 10 minutes. When I stopped my hand was just floppy and I couldn't undo the twist tie on the buns for lunch. He was like oh come on, you really can't do that? I said no, I really can't. My hand just wouldn't do anything anymore other than a weak grasp.
A lot of the housework isn't done like it used to be. I just don't have the endurance to have a perfectly clean house. I start things and don't have the strength to finish. Or I just don't even start them because I just can't.
I think he thinks I'm just being lazy.
When I don't sleep well because of the spasticity in my legs he always counters with "well I didn't sleep that well either"
I just wish I could have him be in this body for a day and see what it's like. I don't know how else I can convince him that I'm not doing well.
Don't get me wrong, he is a great guy and has helped pick up the slack in certain areas despite working long hours ona physically demanding job. But this just seems to be out of his grasp.
Anyting you guys have been able to do to help others underand?
and now I am done bee caus this is taking too long to correct and my fingers just don't want to push the keys anymore!