lisaohgee
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My mom is pretty much completely unable to move anything -- if she tilts her head back, she needs it tilted back forward. She can't move her arms, legs, etc.
She got a feeding tube in September. She will not use it. She still tries to eat normally, but she is having trouble swallowing. Her caretaker wants her to use the feeding tube, because she is extremely worried about her choking. My mom will not. She's down to 93 pounds.
I would have fully supported her not getting the feeding tube if she didn't want it. But to get it and not use it baffles me. She "says" she wants to live, yet she hasn't done anything she could to help prolong her life (bi-pap, feeding tube, etc.). It is obvious she is malnourished because she is losing teeth and she just looks malnourished.
I got a living will and power of attorney done for her, because she and my step dad have been in complete denial. I really hope they will actually sign it.
I don't know what I want out of this post. I just wanted to tell someone who might understand.
She got a feeding tube in September. She will not use it. She still tries to eat normally, but she is having trouble swallowing. Her caretaker wants her to use the feeding tube, because she is extremely worried about her choking. My mom will not. She's down to 93 pounds.
I would have fully supported her not getting the feeding tube if she didn't want it. But to get it and not use it baffles me. She "says" she wants to live, yet she hasn't done anything she could to help prolong her life (bi-pap, feeding tube, etc.). It is obvious she is malnourished because she is losing teeth and she just looks malnourished.
I got a living will and power of attorney done for her, because she and my step dad have been in complete denial. I really hope they will actually sign it.
I don't know what I want out of this post. I just wanted to tell someone who might understand.