lms9258
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Nov 4, 2009
- Messages
- 112
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 07/2009
- Country
- US
- State
- Wisconsin
- City
- Milwaukee
Hi everyone,
I've been reading on this forum since November, but I now have some questions that I know only you all will be able to help me with.
First I think I need to give some background history. My mom who is 74 was diagnosed'ed with frontotemporal dementia (FTD) in May 2007, and ALS in July 2009. She is single, so my siblings and I take care of her in her home. I am there 4 days per week, and also handle everything else that's not related to the actual hands on caring. 2 other sisters split the other 3 days, and another sister and 1 brother help out when they can. Without going into much detail--because that would be under a thread concerning rants and raves--they all question me about everything, as well as offer their opinions. As you all know, with ALS it can be very difficult at times to come up with the best solutions for the seemingly endless issues that arise.
My mom got her feeding tube last Wednesday, Jan. 13. She had one formula feeding in the hospital. Her swallowing has been going down hill for about the last 6 months, but she is still eating by mouth. We try to give her mostly soft foods, but she does eat other stuff, like crackers, noodles, etc...and she loves Hershey bars. About one month ago, she was eating a fish sandwich (no bread, cut up into small pieces), and started choking so I did the Heimlich maneuver on her. This really scared me, and I always feel anxious when she eats now. Someone always sits by her when she eats because she is very impulsive due to the FTD, and will keep putting food in her mouth before she swallows what's already in there.
In trying to decide the best way to switch over to tube feeding completely, I thought we would continue her breakfast, dinner and snacks as usual, and start doing a tube feeding at lunch. This way it wouldn't feel like food is being taken away from her all at once, and it allows enough time while the home health nurse is coming for 5 people to learn how to do it. Please keep in mind that her decision making capabilities are very challenged due to her dementia. So far, 2 of my 4 sisters have questioned the need for the lunch time feedings. One of them is only with her for 4 meals per week, and the other usually visits for a few hours per week and stays overnight about twice a month.
My mom goes to a certified ALS clinic, and I did not get one good answer from that whole team of people when I asked about what to do. So aside from 2 sisters that think my mom should continue eating everything by mouth, I don't know what to do.
My question is for PALS and CALS. At what point did you start partial or complete tube feeding? Was it gradual or all at once? Did any other caregivers have to make this decision alone?
I would also be interested to know if anyone reading this is in a situation where so many other people's opinions, questions, gripes, etc...are always coming at them. I am the most timid of 7 children, and worry about having to continue dealing with them if I say something that makes them mad.
Sorry this post is so long. I look forward to some good advice, and I thank God for this forum.
Laura
I've been reading on this forum since November, but I now have some questions that I know only you all will be able to help me with.
First I think I need to give some background history. My mom who is 74 was diagnosed'ed with frontotemporal dementia (FTD) in May 2007, and ALS in July 2009. She is single, so my siblings and I take care of her in her home. I am there 4 days per week, and also handle everything else that's not related to the actual hands on caring. 2 other sisters split the other 3 days, and another sister and 1 brother help out when they can. Without going into much detail--because that would be under a thread concerning rants and raves--they all question me about everything, as well as offer their opinions. As you all know, with ALS it can be very difficult at times to come up with the best solutions for the seemingly endless issues that arise.
My mom got her feeding tube last Wednesday, Jan. 13. She had one formula feeding in the hospital. Her swallowing has been going down hill for about the last 6 months, but she is still eating by mouth. We try to give her mostly soft foods, but she does eat other stuff, like crackers, noodles, etc...and she loves Hershey bars. About one month ago, she was eating a fish sandwich (no bread, cut up into small pieces), and started choking so I did the Heimlich maneuver on her. This really scared me, and I always feel anxious when she eats now. Someone always sits by her when she eats because she is very impulsive due to the FTD, and will keep putting food in her mouth before she swallows what's already in there.
In trying to decide the best way to switch over to tube feeding completely, I thought we would continue her breakfast, dinner and snacks as usual, and start doing a tube feeding at lunch. This way it wouldn't feel like food is being taken away from her all at once, and it allows enough time while the home health nurse is coming for 5 people to learn how to do it. Please keep in mind that her decision making capabilities are very challenged due to her dementia. So far, 2 of my 4 sisters have questioned the need for the lunch time feedings. One of them is only with her for 4 meals per week, and the other usually visits for a few hours per week and stays overnight about twice a month.
My mom goes to a certified ALS clinic, and I did not get one good answer from that whole team of people when I asked about what to do. So aside from 2 sisters that think my mom should continue eating everything by mouth, I don't know what to do.
My question is for PALS and CALS. At what point did you start partial or complete tube feeding? Was it gradual or all at once? Did any other caregivers have to make this decision alone?
I would also be interested to know if anyone reading this is in a situation where so many other people's opinions, questions, gripes, etc...are always coming at them. I am the most timid of 7 children, and worry about having to continue dealing with them if I say something that makes them mad.
Sorry this post is so long. I look forward to some good advice, and I thank God for this forum.
Laura