Shelley... thanks, you best me to it... we just got home from the ALSA bike ride so I'm just catching up. That article from ALSA was given to us by the neuro at UCSF and it reallly helped put a lot of things in perspective! When you add in the FTD, it's kind of a new beast! It's hard enough when someone is choking and can't eat properly. When they are choking and can't eat properly and don't understand they are sick (FTD patients lack insight into their medical condition) and turn around right after you've had to heimlich them and shove a huge bit of food into their mouth... the stress level gets insane. Anxiety level in FTD patients is high also.. my Glen if left alone after dark is almost guaranteed to leave the house looking for us. We know we have to hide the car keys.. but don't want him walking around alone after dark either.
Gelthling... I understand the refusing equipment thing. Our air hockey table is strewn with "adaptive devices" suggested by the occupational therapist. He tells her "sure, I'll try that" so I order it... and he won't use it. Built up handles for toothbrush and eating utensils, button/zipper hook, etc. Our three successes: levers on the door knobs, a long handled hair comb, and the dysphagia cup he has his milk before bed from. It's a little rough on caregivers, but I know Shelley and I have learned from each other, and if your Dad wants to get ahold of us, please let me know!