loretta
New member
- Joined
- Jun 18, 2009
- Messages
- 8
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- US
- State
- AZ
- City
- Ganado
hello to all....my brother was diagnosed, after a long period of drs visits and so on, with als. he is confined to a wheelchair, he does have a feeding tube, his speech is gone.....but, he has the fighting spirit. they have told us he is in his "last leg" of this race, he has been fighting for 2 yrs now, the disease seemed to take over very rapidly. his wife, my family have somewhat accepted this disease, but, to be truthful, my parents are taking this very badly (as expected) and they are, at times, making a horrible situation much worse. they are in the anger stage of grief, and they are fighting everyone. my brother's wife is handling his care and making sure all angles are covered, however, when my parent's ask for updates, they don't want to hear them. this is starting to put strain on my brother, he can not get his message out to them and when we try to talk to mom / dad, they won't listen. my brother is hanging in there, but, i am afraid for him and the added stress this is causing. my parents are in the mid 70's, i worry about their health as well. there is a grandchild as well, and although she is only 12, she is very much aware of the fighting and it is causing strain on her as well. how do we get past this stage of grief and get our parents to start enjoying everyday with my brother? i fear they are letting precious time with him slip by. he needs us all to be strong, i just don't know how to get my parents there? can someone help or give some advice.