rocmg
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hi all... i wanted to ask you a question about early ALS and health care professionals.
The MND nurse for our district visited me and mum the other day and really upset us, perhaps not intentionally, but she did nevertheless. The way she delivered the information about MND was rather brash, matter-of-fact, and yes, a little patronizing. It's one thing reading it on the internet, but to hear someone say it out loud and echo round the room, is different sensation. My mum has worked with severely disabled people for over ten years, and was a caregiver to her own mum who died from cancer. She knows the score, and she knows about the final stages of the disease.
I just don't know how beneficial it is to spell out to mum what she can expect to experience over the next few years. The nurse had a little plastic tube in a bag (I assume it was a PEG?) and also some leaflets which read on the front, " Life with MND may be short -- But it's still worth living!"
I know these people are doing their jobs, but it seemed a bit over the top. I know anticipating the next step is part of care in MND, but is it really necessary to do it immediately? Doesn't it make sense to discuss PEGs when the nurse has assessed a swallowing difficulty, wheelchairs when mum has imbalance/weakness walking etc?
I know there's no good way to break bad news, but it seemed counterproductive to mum's current state to shake her up like that -- especially when there's no way of telling if mum will need a PEG next week or next year.
The MND nurse for our district visited me and mum the other day and really upset us, perhaps not intentionally, but she did nevertheless. The way she delivered the information about MND was rather brash, matter-of-fact, and yes, a little patronizing. It's one thing reading it on the internet, but to hear someone say it out loud and echo round the room, is different sensation. My mum has worked with severely disabled people for over ten years, and was a caregiver to her own mum who died from cancer. She knows the score, and she knows about the final stages of the disease.
I just don't know how beneficial it is to spell out to mum what she can expect to experience over the next few years. The nurse had a little plastic tube in a bag (I assume it was a PEG?) and also some leaflets which read on the front, " Life with MND may be short -- But it's still worth living!"
I know these people are doing their jobs, but it seemed a bit over the top. I know anticipating the next step is part of care in MND, but is it really necessary to do it immediately? Doesn't it make sense to discuss PEGs when the nurse has assessed a swallowing difficulty, wheelchairs when mum has imbalance/weakness walking etc?
I know there's no good way to break bad news, but it seemed counterproductive to mum's current state to shake her up like that -- especially when there's no way of telling if mum will need a PEG next week or next year.