RaineLee
New member
- Joined
- Jun 24, 2017
- Messages
- 1
- Reason
- Friend was DX
- Diagnosis
- 02/2017
- Country
- CA
- State
- Alberta
- City
- calgary
Hi there. I'm new to this forum.
I have a dear friend that's been his diagnosed with juvenile ALS. I love this friend very much and he and I have been close for many years, he was a big part of my high school years. He has been a devoted Christian as long as I have known him. He suffered from alcohol addiction for a while but he began to recuperate in our last year of high school and he became a really great friend in that time as well. He had band that he was so invested in but he had to leave because his knees eventually began to cause him pain onstage, until he couldn't play guitar, and then he couldn't play piano. He was in school and quit that as well, as university is hard to navigate when you struggle with standing and walking, and his dignity is everything to him as well. He truly in his heart believes he will get better.
I am not a religious person and struggle with the idea of my own mortality. He really holds on to this hope but I see him deteriorate more every time I see him. I am so happy he has his religion and this beautiful conviction that miracles exist. I would never try to tell him otherwise because this belief is what keeps him goIng. But I feel so sad. I do not believe he will get better, and it scares me how quickly he's getting worse. I don't know how to cope with my grief, I truly believed he'd grow up to do so many great things and be famous and have all this recognition. And now my belief in dreams is shattered. Life is so unfair and can be so unforgiving, taking breath out of those that do not deserve to go.
So I guess my questions are, how do cope with this situation? How do I support my friend in the best way possible without showing him how sad I am?
Thank you all.
I have a dear friend that's been his diagnosed with juvenile ALS. I love this friend very much and he and I have been close for many years, he was a big part of my high school years. He has been a devoted Christian as long as I have known him. He suffered from alcohol addiction for a while but he began to recuperate in our last year of high school and he became a really great friend in that time as well. He had band that he was so invested in but he had to leave because his knees eventually began to cause him pain onstage, until he couldn't play guitar, and then he couldn't play piano. He was in school and quit that as well, as university is hard to navigate when you struggle with standing and walking, and his dignity is everything to him as well. He truly in his heart believes he will get better.
I am not a religious person and struggle with the idea of my own mortality. He really holds on to this hope but I see him deteriorate more every time I see him. I am so happy he has his religion and this beautiful conviction that miracles exist. I would never try to tell him otherwise because this belief is what keeps him goIng. But I feel so sad. I do not believe he will get better, and it scares me how quickly he's getting worse. I don't know how to cope with my grief, I truly believed he'd grow up to do so many great things and be famous and have all this recognition. And now my belief in dreams is shattered. Life is so unfair and can be so unforgiving, taking breath out of those that do not deserve to go.
So I guess my questions are, how do cope with this situation? How do I support my friend in the best way possible without showing him how sad I am?
Thank you all.