Sayen
New member
- Joined
- Aug 27, 2015
- Messages
- 8
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- CA
- State
- Nova scotia
- City
- halifax
So I've just moved back home from a city I was living in for 9 years to spend time with my father who was diagnosed with ALS last year. That year that I was still living in a city far away from him I did not cope with his illness very well, and drank a lot to try and deal with not knowing how far he was progressing or if he would still be alive by the time I got out there again.
Now that I'm here, I was glad to be near him again and straighten my life out a bit. But everything is sinking in now. He has progressed to the point where he cannot speak barely at all. He can't go outside without having to be hooked up to his breathing aperatus afterwards, he can't eat or drink, bathe himself, hold his head up and I have to cut his finger and toe nails for him. This is such a change from last time I saw him, I barely recognize him anymore..
I've been trying to distract myself because I have no idea how to deal with this. He has the kind that attacks his lungs so I have no idea how long he has. But I'm finding myself feeling lost without the circle of friends I had in my city or my old life. I don't know hardly anyone here except my family, I feel like I've lost everything. Like I don't have a life of my own anymore.
I visited a city 5 hours away to spend some time with friends and I didn't want to leave. I felt I found something that was missing. They want me to move up there but I don't know if that would be me walking out on my family again when they need me. The last city I was in was a 15 hour drive away so 5 hours seems like nothing to me, but they don't feel the same. I feel like I'm being selfish, but I just feel so alone here...
Now that I'm here, I was glad to be near him again and straighten my life out a bit. But everything is sinking in now. He has progressed to the point where he cannot speak barely at all. He can't go outside without having to be hooked up to his breathing aperatus afterwards, he can't eat or drink, bathe himself, hold his head up and I have to cut his finger and toe nails for him. This is such a change from last time I saw him, I barely recognize him anymore..
I've been trying to distract myself because I have no idea how to deal with this. He has the kind that attacks his lungs so I have no idea how long he has. But I'm finding myself feeling lost without the circle of friends I had in my city or my old life. I don't know hardly anyone here except my family, I feel like I've lost everything. Like I don't have a life of my own anymore.
I visited a city 5 hours away to spend some time with friends and I didn't want to leave. I felt I found something that was missing. They want me to move up there but I don't know if that would be me walking out on my family again when they need me. The last city I was in was a 15 hour drive away so 5 hours seems like nothing to me, but they don't feel the same. I feel like I'm being selfish, but I just feel so alone here...