starente15
Senior member
- Joined
- Oct 27, 2014
- Messages
- 809
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 10/2017
- Country
- US
- State
- NJ
- City
- Northern
How do you know when it's time to take a leave of absence from work to be there?
Since my return from visiting my parents two weeks ago I've gotten updates that my father's breathing is getting worse, he's using the bipap a lot more, and has stopped going out.
Hospice started on Tuesday and provided lorazepam and morphine, both of which he said he didn't want (he's afraid of becoming a zombie). Somehow my mother got him to take it that evening and he asked for it last night.
From what I know and have read, I know we're entering the end stage. His blood pressure is going up (the nurse said he's getting tired) and his voice is much weaker. My mother said today she's worried he's giving up because he sits with his head down and doesn't watch TV anymore either.
As usual, I'm giving myself a panic attack with the thoughts running through my head. I suspect I should just start planning to go within the next week or so.
Since my return from visiting my parents two weeks ago I've gotten updates that my father's breathing is getting worse, he's using the bipap a lot more, and has stopped going out.
Hospice started on Tuesday and provided lorazepam and morphine, both of which he said he didn't want (he's afraid of becoming a zombie). Somehow my mother got him to take it that evening and he asked for it last night.
From what I know and have read, I know we're entering the end stage. His blood pressure is going up (the nurse said he's getting tired) and his voice is much weaker. My mother said today she's worried he's giving up because he sits with his head down and doesn't watch TV anymore either.
As usual, I'm giving myself a panic attack with the thoughts running through my head. I suspect I should just start planning to go within the next week or so.