Do you have an attendant controller on your chair? When my husband's hands started to get quite weak, he found that a slight bump, or even the sleeve of his coat would throw of his grip on the controller. He is now completely paralyzed so I operate his chair with an attendant control. I didn't how difficult it had been for him until I started doing it, and realized that I could get him in, in less than half the time, with less bumping into things. He was very good initially but I did find him nearly going off the ramp near the time that I took over. We did try a head controller but he started to lose the muscle control on the left side of his neck, so unless he only wanted to go in circles it was better for me to drive him. They suggested a sip and puff controller, but he said he was done trying to keep control, and was perfectly happy to let me drive him around.
I know it has been so difficult to have to give up each and every individual independent activity, and God only knows how I would respond to such a challenge. I remain in awe of my husband and his amazing spirit and lust for life, even in the state he is in. We laugh daily, and it is he who helps me see the positives in live. God bless you.
Paulette