Hi Neil, (Max I'll try to use English, bear with me)
I'm not sure of what you have been reading.
I can say however that the palliative care system in the area I live in at least are amazing. They totally supported us in Chris staying at home and choosing what help would be given.
He gained his wings in total peace, comfort and in our home alone with me. I had 24 hour phone support from palliative care and was phoning them twice a day to update progress and receive any advice gratefully. I was allowed to tend to him my way, doing his care according to my own gut instinct without any interference of any kind.
Chris flew free around 3am on April 22. I simply phoned the funeral director who arrived around 8.30 am. Together we phoned the GP and organised that the funeral director would bring his body to the surgery to have the death certificate filled out, then he took his body on with him for cremation.
It was very easy, from the point of view that I had no forms to fill out, no permissions to be granted, no investigations, no ambulances, no police, just a dignified collection of his body WHEN I WAS READY.
I felt grateful to be living somewhere that allowed us to do things on our own terms, and just be supported to make that happen. I also have much comfort now as a widow to know I could give that to my Chris with all the dignity and comfort that is possible.
I'd be interested to know what you were reading, as maybe I can interpret some of it in the reality of what happens?
Howzat Max?