Pat dog
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- Apr 23, 2014
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- 3
- Reason
- CALS
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- Aus
- State
- Victoria
- City
- Melbourne
Mum was diagnosed 12 months ago. Since then she has been in denial and talks about wanting to die. That's just one issue. She has always been a negative and manipulating person so the least I saw her the better our relationship. So is there anybody else who has a difficult mother who also has ALS/ MND?
She has been living with me and making feel miserable. I treat her with dignity and respect. My son says I should kick her out because of the way she treats me. The other issue is I' m caring for her but I'm also disabled and live with chronic disabling pain. Looking after her is making my pain worse. I need to say that for 8 years I couldn't walk without an aid and spent most of that time in a wheelchair. I went through periods of not being able to dress myself, struggling to eat, really struggling to do most everything. I know ALS/MND is much worse than what I went through but I understand somewhat about the struggles. I have always tried to find the positive in the most difficult situations.....which is the opposite of my Mum who finds the worse but she is suffocating the goodness within me.
Mum doesn't want to know about what her future hold, she said she would rather starve than have a peg tube inserted. She would rather fall than use inside walking frame....she wants to fall and hit her head and hopes it kills her. She has various aids but won't use them but then complains when she can't to a task that would be easier using the aid, eg has an aid to help with turning taps but won't use it but then yells and swears blaming me for turning the tap to tight!
Some days I just feel so empty. I was told by professionals not to leave her unattended so every day I have to be around to watch her. Is there anybody else in a similar situation to mine?
She has been living with me and making feel miserable. I treat her with dignity and respect. My son says I should kick her out because of the way she treats me. The other issue is I' m caring for her but I'm also disabled and live with chronic disabling pain. Looking after her is making my pain worse. I need to say that for 8 years I couldn't walk without an aid and spent most of that time in a wheelchair. I went through periods of not being able to dress myself, struggling to eat, really struggling to do most everything. I know ALS/MND is much worse than what I went through but I understand somewhat about the struggles. I have always tried to find the positive in the most difficult situations.....which is the opposite of my Mum who finds the worse but she is suffocating the goodness within me.
Mum doesn't want to know about what her future hold, she said she would rather starve than have a peg tube inserted. She would rather fall than use inside walking frame....she wants to fall and hit her head and hopes it kills her. She has various aids but won't use them but then complains when she can't to a task that would be easier using the aid, eg has an aid to help with turning taps but won't use it but then yells and swears blaming me for turning the tap to tight!
Some days I just feel so empty. I was told by professionals not to leave her unattended so every day I have to be around to watch her. Is there anybody else in a similar situation to mine?