mimipgm
New member
- Joined
- Nov 2, 2011
- Messages
- 8
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 09/2011
- Country
- US
- State
- TN
- City
- Springfield
I am so confused. hurt and honestly, a bit angry. I have been going down on the weekends (120 miles) to stay with my mother to give other family members a break. This weekend, it seemed like I could not do anything at all to make her happy. She seemed mad at the world and was so hateful. She has a lot of company which made her nervous and I suggested her allowing me to put a note on the door letting people know she was resting (but thank them for coming). She was adamant that I not put anything on her door, but yet complained constantly about how people were "worrying" her. I bought her a very expensive heated mattress cover thinking it would perhaps make her muscle cramps better, and she told me she didn't want it and to just "take it back where I got it". I worked so hard cleaning, ironing, doing laundry and cooking meals for she and my dad to have this week and she even acted mad about that. She had also told my daughter last weekend when she called and told her she was going to drive down to see her that she didn't want her to and for her to stay home with her own family. This was extremely hurtful because my daughter adores her grandmother and only wanted to spend time with her. After such an emotional couple of days with her bitter attitude, I left late Sat. night after I had all I could possibly take. I did let her know that I was doing all I could to make it easier on all of us, but I just couldn't take her jumping down my throat about each and every thing I did or tried to do. I also told her if I could trade places with her I would do so in a minute, but I couldn't. I have felt awful ever since, and wish none of it had happened. She is consumed with bitterness and takes it out on everyone. Does this go with this disease? Could someone please advise me on what I should or shouldn't do in the future? I love her so much, but I am not responsible for her getting ALS. HELP, please!