lisaohgee
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- Joined
- Oct 21, 2009
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- IL
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- Evergreen Park
I know I'm not here daily, like some of you. I do appreciate so much though all of your thoughts and kind words.
My mom refuses to accept hospice care. I brought it up to her, using advice from Lobster about not using the word "hospice" but "resources" and "support" and things of that nature.
She seemed inclined, but then found out Medicare onlycovers 80% and they'd have to pay the other 20%.
So no.
She needs it desperately, but I actually feel that my stepdad needs it more.
She's paralyzed from the neck down. She can only make noises. He is constantly adjusting and readjusting her on the couch because she also refuses to get a hospital bed, although she doesn't have the muscle ability to keep herself sitting upright.
She refuses to use the bipap. She's in constant pain, because she will not/ cannot get to the doctor, and they won't prescribe pain medicine without seeing her.
My stepdad has always shown signs of stress, signs of gloom. But this past weekend, he was MAD. Angry. He was yelling about how she refuses to do anything to help her, how she refuses to use the bi-pap and he thinks it's making her think goofy because she's not getting enough oxygen to her brain (I don't even know if this is possible?).
I told him in private to just GET a hospital bed. She might get upset and cry, but in reality, what can she do? And she DESPERATELY needs it. He says she eats, but she had one egg on Saturday morning and said she wasn't hungry around 1 p.m.
I just don't know what to do. I've tried everything I can think of. She also seems not totally with it. She'll just stare off into space or at the TV when we are talking, whereas before she'd look at my kids or me or something.
I really REALLY hate this disease.
My mom refuses to accept hospice care. I brought it up to her, using advice from Lobster about not using the word "hospice" but "resources" and "support" and things of that nature.
She seemed inclined, but then found out Medicare onlycovers 80% and they'd have to pay the other 20%.
So no.
She needs it desperately, but I actually feel that my stepdad needs it more.
She's paralyzed from the neck down. She can only make noises. He is constantly adjusting and readjusting her on the couch because she also refuses to get a hospital bed, although she doesn't have the muscle ability to keep herself sitting upright.
She refuses to use the bipap. She's in constant pain, because she will not/ cannot get to the doctor, and they won't prescribe pain medicine without seeing her.
My stepdad has always shown signs of stress, signs of gloom. But this past weekend, he was MAD. Angry. He was yelling about how she refuses to do anything to help her, how she refuses to use the bi-pap and he thinks it's making her think goofy because she's not getting enough oxygen to her brain (I don't even know if this is possible?).
I told him in private to just GET a hospital bed. She might get upset and cry, but in reality, what can she do? And she DESPERATELY needs it. He says she eats, but she had one egg on Saturday morning and said she wasn't hungry around 1 p.m.
I just don't know what to do. I've tried everything I can think of. She also seems not totally with it. She'll just stare off into space or at the TV when we are talking, whereas before she'd look at my kids or me or something.
I really REALLY hate this disease.