lisaohgee
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As I've posted before, I think my mom is ready for hospice. The Social Worker who visited her agreed, however, my mom won't accept it. She is paralyzed from the neck down, has barely any speech left, and can barely eat anymore. She is getting more and more tired during the day, which I suspect is from the fact her breathing is probably also deteriorating.
She's very depressed, but she refuses to take anti-depressants. She refuses to go to the doctor, or use any equipment or do anything that will help prolong her life and or make life right now easier. She's basically given up.
Now, if she's decided she doesn't want to prolong the inevitable, I am fine with that. She is miserable trapped in a body that doesn't work, and I am not selfish enough to want her to stick around for my own personal wishes. I also already feel I've lost her in a sense.
I do, however, think she should get hospice because it will help make her comfortable. I don't know if she understands that. She and my stepdad are so against any additional help coming in (my mom has a home care helper during the day while my stepdad is at work). I realize that might be because they don't want anyone interfering on the little time they have left, but I really think hospice is necessary at this point. I know theres no way to tell how long she has left, but I feel that she's nearing the end.
I don't really know if there's something I should do.
She's very depressed, but she refuses to take anti-depressants. She refuses to go to the doctor, or use any equipment or do anything that will help prolong her life and or make life right now easier. She's basically given up.
Now, if she's decided she doesn't want to prolong the inevitable, I am fine with that. She is miserable trapped in a body that doesn't work, and I am not selfish enough to want her to stick around for my own personal wishes. I also already feel I've lost her in a sense.
I do, however, think she should get hospice because it will help make her comfortable. I don't know if she understands that. She and my stepdad are so against any additional help coming in (my mom has a home care helper during the day while my stepdad is at work). I realize that might be because they don't want anyone interfering on the little time they have left, but I really think hospice is necessary at this point. I know theres no way to tell how long she has left, but I feel that she's nearing the end.
I don't really know if there's something I should do.