DavidS
New member
- Joined
- Jan 18, 2010
- Messages
- 4
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Country
- CA
- State
- Ontario
- City
- Thornhill
Hi everyone,
So my dad has been in hospital for 2 months now. He went in with a GI bleed, then he got pneumonia so he was endotracheally tubed, then we opted to go for a tracheotomy and ventilator as my father still has much use of his legs and head although he has little use of his arms, upper body, and now, his diaphragm/breathing muscles.
Firstly, we live in Canada, which means that healthcare is being provided for us... somewhat. At first, when we went into the hospital, our immediate reaction was 'yes, we want him out of here as soon as possible' as we knew that a program exists where families can be trained on the ventilator machinery and can take patients home. After having him there for a while, we realized (its just my mother and I) how much more breathing space we really had when he was in the hospital. Beforehand, we were on a BiPap and had some level of care (if even just someone sleeping in the room with him) for 24 hours.
Now my father definitely wants to come home. And a huge part of me wants him home. But part of us says that we will also be much more stressed than even when in the BiPap world, and also, the decision to have competent caregiving for 24h a day is a financially difficult one, even if the gov't were to cover, say, 40h a week.
My dad still has a lot of strength and still has his vigor on some days (others he just watches a lot of TV in the hospital) and I really want to get him out and about, ESPECIALLY now that summer is around the corner. We figure that, if he stays in hospital, we could hire a nurse or RT to take him out for special days, but other than that it would be difficult to take him places and he would be mostly confined to his room. We are also worried in the long run, for how it would be, having him at home versus keeping him in the hospital. I worry, that despite a higher level of care, and us visiting him daily, he will lose some of his drive and will deteriorate more quickly, but also, as him being on a vent, we may be able to have him with us for another 5-10-15 years, and presuming I want to move out as well, and start my own life, it would be very difficult to take care of him all that ways along.
If you could please weigh in, those of you who have gone through this, and PALS who have spent long times in hospitals, or dealing with the issue, that would be GREATLY appreciated. My dad is a very altruistic person and doesn't want to 'burden' us or interfere with my schooling (Uni) but he also said it would be very 'bad' and 'lousy' if he couldn't come home.
Please send me your thoughts.
So my dad has been in hospital for 2 months now. He went in with a GI bleed, then he got pneumonia so he was endotracheally tubed, then we opted to go for a tracheotomy and ventilator as my father still has much use of his legs and head although he has little use of his arms, upper body, and now, his diaphragm/breathing muscles.
Firstly, we live in Canada, which means that healthcare is being provided for us... somewhat. At first, when we went into the hospital, our immediate reaction was 'yes, we want him out of here as soon as possible' as we knew that a program exists where families can be trained on the ventilator machinery and can take patients home. After having him there for a while, we realized (its just my mother and I) how much more breathing space we really had when he was in the hospital. Beforehand, we were on a BiPap and had some level of care (if even just someone sleeping in the room with him) for 24 hours.
Now my father definitely wants to come home. And a huge part of me wants him home. But part of us says that we will also be much more stressed than even when in the BiPap world, and also, the decision to have competent caregiving for 24h a day is a financially difficult one, even if the gov't were to cover, say, 40h a week.
My dad still has a lot of strength and still has his vigor on some days (others he just watches a lot of TV in the hospital) and I really want to get him out and about, ESPECIALLY now that summer is around the corner. We figure that, if he stays in hospital, we could hire a nurse or RT to take him out for special days, but other than that it would be difficult to take him places and he would be mostly confined to his room. We are also worried in the long run, for how it would be, having him at home versus keeping him in the hospital. I worry, that despite a higher level of care, and us visiting him daily, he will lose some of his drive and will deteriorate more quickly, but also, as him being on a vent, we may be able to have him with us for another 5-10-15 years, and presuming I want to move out as well, and start my own life, it would be very difficult to take care of him all that ways along.
If you could please weigh in, those of you who have gone through this, and PALS who have spent long times in hospitals, or dealing with the issue, that would be GREATLY appreciated. My dad is a very altruistic person and doesn't want to 'burden' us or interfere with my schooling (Uni) but he also said it would be very 'bad' and 'lousy' if he couldn't come home.
Please send me your thoughts.