Bujy
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- Sep 22, 2007
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So, I'm getting all these feelings inside me. I am disappointed more of the family isn't helping out. I 'm disappointed with family because I think they're not taking this seriously. I'm disappointed with my FIL because he's not putting his foot down to my MIL. I'm disappointed with my MIL because she is taking acting like the world revolves around her. She may have ALS, but it's no reason to be an ass. I'm disappointed I'm the only one who stands up to her.
I have a great deal of respect for the family and what they're dealing with. It's very hard seeing someone you love go through this. And everybody's family contribution is different as we as individuals are different. My husband takes care of the kids when I'm helping out his mother. That's a big help. I couldn't do it otherwise.
I wish things could be done MY way. I want my MIL to move into a one story house to make it easier on my FIL. She says she wants to go into a home when her husband can't take care of her anymore. Does she realize how much this all costs? Holy Moly! I wish they'd get in more homecare.
I want thigns done my way. HA HA. I'm reading up on this post and am now kind of rolling my eyes at myself. I sound terrible. I was going to delete it, but decided to post anyways.
If I can't whine and be a baby to you guys.. then well, I'm lost. And I know I can so.. for that I thank you.
*giggle*
But in all seriousness, I do get resentful sometimes. And I've learned it's OK. I've learned to ask for help. I've learned it's OK to tell my MIL she's being rude or disrespectful. Regardless of your illness, it doesn't make it right to act and behave poorly. I firmly believe in calling people on it. You know, I think she actually appreciates it. I treat her the same mentally as I ever did.
Hope you all have a good weekend.
I have a great deal of respect for the family and what they're dealing with. It's very hard seeing someone you love go through this. And everybody's family contribution is different as we as individuals are different. My husband takes care of the kids when I'm helping out his mother. That's a big help. I couldn't do it otherwise.
I wish things could be done MY way. I want my MIL to move into a one story house to make it easier on my FIL. She says she wants to go into a home when her husband can't take care of her anymore. Does she realize how much this all costs? Holy Moly! I wish they'd get in more homecare.
I want thigns done my way. HA HA. I'm reading up on this post and am now kind of rolling my eyes at myself. I sound terrible. I was going to delete it, but decided to post anyways.
If I can't whine and be a baby to you guys.. then well, I'm lost. And I know I can so.. for that I thank you.
*giggle*
But in all seriousness, I do get resentful sometimes. And I've learned it's OK. I've learned to ask for help. I've learned it's OK to tell my MIL she's being rude or disrespectful. Regardless of your illness, it doesn't make it right to act and behave poorly. I firmly believe in calling people on it. You know, I think she actually appreciates it. I treat her the same mentally as I ever did.
Hope you all have a good weekend.