missbelle
Member
- Joined
- May 10, 2016
- Messages
- 28
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 05/2016
- Country
- CA
- State
- Ontario
- City
- Hamilton
Hi guys. This one might be difficult to answer as it's more a mental thing, but I cannot convince my mom that her having to use an iPad to communicate is fine and normal. She's so insecure about being in public with it.
Some back story: mom recently diagnosed/confirmed ALS in October. She cannot speak well (my dad and I are the only ones who can understand her), and has difficulty swallowing, but otherwise is doing okay. She can walk fine and only had minimal weakness on one side. She's still very independent.
Anyway, I got her an iPad with a text-to-speech app. She learned how to use it quickly and is doing a great job with it! Even her social worker was impressed! She uses it all the time in front of me and my dad, and even makes little jokes on it and seems to be having fun using it!
But when she gets invited to a social event (say, a dinner or outing with friends) she is too embarrassed to have to use it, and just won't bother going. We would also like to take her away for Christmas, but she doesn't want to go anywhere because she's too ashamed. She just wants to stay at home and only talk to the 2 of us.
I was thinking maybe I could find some counselling for her, but I think she would be too embarrassed to go since she'd have a hard time communicating with someone. There are no ALS support groups in her area since she lives way out in the country. I keep telling her that everyone loves her and just wants her to be there, and no one thinks it's weird she has to communicate with an iPad, everyone thinks it's pretty cool really!
Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar and has any helpful suggestions? I suppose it's really just up to her and she'll maybe get more comfortable with it over time? It's just... we don't necessarily have much time. I don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want to, but... I also want to force her to do some things that I know would end up being fun!
It's a tough situation. Thanks in advance!
Some back story: mom recently diagnosed/confirmed ALS in October. She cannot speak well (my dad and I are the only ones who can understand her), and has difficulty swallowing, but otherwise is doing okay. She can walk fine and only had minimal weakness on one side. She's still very independent.
Anyway, I got her an iPad with a text-to-speech app. She learned how to use it quickly and is doing a great job with it! Even her social worker was impressed! She uses it all the time in front of me and my dad, and even makes little jokes on it and seems to be having fun using it!
But when she gets invited to a social event (say, a dinner or outing with friends) she is too embarrassed to have to use it, and just won't bother going. We would also like to take her away for Christmas, but she doesn't want to go anywhere because she's too ashamed. She just wants to stay at home and only talk to the 2 of us.
I was thinking maybe I could find some counselling for her, but I think she would be too embarrassed to go since she'd have a hard time communicating with someone. There are no ALS support groups in her area since she lives way out in the country. I keep telling her that everyone loves her and just wants her to be there, and no one thinks it's weird she has to communicate with an iPad, everyone thinks it's pretty cool really!
Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar and has any helpful suggestions? I suppose it's really just up to her and she'll maybe get more comfortable with it over time? It's just... we don't necessarily have much time. I don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want to, but... I also want to force her to do some things that I know would end up being fun!
It's a tough situation. Thanks in advance!