Manhattanite
Distinguished member
- Joined
- May 10, 2015
- Messages
- 209
- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 05/2015
- Country
- US
- State
- NY
- City
- New York
Hello all, I don't post here often but I have been a member of this community since last year. Some friends and family have asked if I have considered going to therapy to help me deal with my partner's ALS but I keep resisting.
I had a major depressive episode in 1999 and went through a couple of years of therapy and antidepressants back then but the entire experience left me with a bad taste in my mouth. I have been therapy and medication free for over a decade - I feel that the episode gave me the tools to deal with events that could cause depression.
I think that I am doing ok. The way I see it, sadness and anticipatory grief are normal and I still go about my life. I feel that our culture has such an aversion to sadness (the pursuit of happiness and all that) but as long as it is not incapacitating, sadness has its place in life. Exercise has been my life saver and that along with creative hobbies are what keeps me sane. I have friends and family spread out through the globe and if I need to vent they are always available via Texting, Skype, Facebook, Snapchat or even Instagram, so I never feel isolated.
But part of me wonders if therapy is something I should consider as a preparation for what is to come. I don't know if my "tools" will suffice to deal with the loss of my partner and a new reality. And yet another part of me prefers the "wait and see" approach and seek therapy if and when I really need it.
I am curious to hear other CALS' experience with counseling or therapy. Did you find it helped? Or did you feel it was useless? Did you resist it? Did you try it during the course of the illness or did you start afterwards?
I had a major depressive episode in 1999 and went through a couple of years of therapy and antidepressants back then but the entire experience left me with a bad taste in my mouth. I have been therapy and medication free for over a decade - I feel that the episode gave me the tools to deal with events that could cause depression.
I think that I am doing ok. The way I see it, sadness and anticipatory grief are normal and I still go about my life. I feel that our culture has such an aversion to sadness (the pursuit of happiness and all that) but as long as it is not incapacitating, sadness has its place in life. Exercise has been my life saver and that along with creative hobbies are what keeps me sane. I have friends and family spread out through the globe and if I need to vent they are always available via Texting, Skype, Facebook, Snapchat or even Instagram, so I never feel isolated.
But part of me wonders if therapy is something I should consider as a preparation for what is to come. I don't know if my "tools" will suffice to deal with the loss of my partner and a new reality. And yet another part of me prefers the "wait and see" approach and seek therapy if and when I really need it.
I am curious to hear other CALS' experience with counseling or therapy. Did you find it helped? Or did you feel it was useless? Did you resist it? Did you try it during the course of the illness or did you start afterwards?