jayswife
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- Feb 11, 2016
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- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 04/2014
- Country
- US
- State
- ct
- City
- stratford
I just need to vent and no one else will understand. I will try to keep this short.
Jay's sister came up from Texas for two weeks to "help". I was really sick for one of the weeks. She did not help. Our caregiver, Valerie, told her she needs to step up because I'm very sick. She said she came to help do laundry and wash dishes but she can't lift Jay because her knee is bad and she won't suction his mouth because she's scared.
This lady has me so angry. Her definition of doing laundry is bringing the clothes to the basement and leaving them on top of the dryer. She's eaten all my food and mind you when she cooks it's for herself and no one else. She's asked for rides when I was sick and had no regard for me. She asked me to cook for her when I was making Jay an omelette. Can you believe the nerve?
The only thing she has done is eat all the food and complain that I didn't have lunch meat in the house, take two showers a day, leave the fans running in the room when she leaves which was quite often, and annoy the heck out of me. When I say something to her she gets an attitude and sits upstairs and is nasty. She's leaving tomorrow and it can't come quick enough.
The other night when I'm getting Jay ready for bed she shouts downstairs and asks me to leave a clean sheet for her because she has bites on her back and it must be from the bed. I almost lost it. I don't have bugs in my house. How dare her?
On top of all this, Jay's son is 27. He never graduated high school, does not have his license and works about 14 hours a week. He has had drug problems in the past and also has some mental issues - not sure the extent because Jay won't talk to me about it. 5 months is the longest he has held a job. He lives with his mom's mother in a retirement community and just moved his girlfriend in and she works at the same place and has the same amount of hours per week.
He never really lived with Jay because with Jay there were rules. You go to school and work, etc. So he always went back to his grandmother. He goes months without seeing Jay. They were supposed to be over yesterday at 9 am and told Jay they would make him pancakes for breakfast. They showed up at 1:30 and didn't even call to tell us. Good think I didn't tell our caregiver to take the day off.
My brother gave Jay a $50 gift card for father's day and he went and gave it to his son. And for the third time last night he said he wants his son and his girlfriend to move in. Again I said no. We cannot afford two adults. He said that they'll have to take care of themselves. They can't afford to. I understand he may want his son around but not to move in. My house is not large and they would always be home. They argue all the time and have had problems at his grandmother's house because of it.
Yes, they help with Jay when they actually show up. But again, we can't afford it. I'm trying to explain that all bills will go up. They can't afford food and I can't afford to feed them. I'm so angry I didn't even want to look at him last night. I just don't know what to do.
Jay's sister came up from Texas for two weeks to "help". I was really sick for one of the weeks. She did not help. Our caregiver, Valerie, told her she needs to step up because I'm very sick. She said she came to help do laundry and wash dishes but she can't lift Jay because her knee is bad and she won't suction his mouth because she's scared.
This lady has me so angry. Her definition of doing laundry is bringing the clothes to the basement and leaving them on top of the dryer. She's eaten all my food and mind you when she cooks it's for herself and no one else. She's asked for rides when I was sick and had no regard for me. She asked me to cook for her when I was making Jay an omelette. Can you believe the nerve?
The only thing she has done is eat all the food and complain that I didn't have lunch meat in the house, take two showers a day, leave the fans running in the room when she leaves which was quite often, and annoy the heck out of me. When I say something to her she gets an attitude and sits upstairs and is nasty. She's leaving tomorrow and it can't come quick enough.
The other night when I'm getting Jay ready for bed she shouts downstairs and asks me to leave a clean sheet for her because she has bites on her back and it must be from the bed. I almost lost it. I don't have bugs in my house. How dare her?
On top of all this, Jay's son is 27. He never graduated high school, does not have his license and works about 14 hours a week. He has had drug problems in the past and also has some mental issues - not sure the extent because Jay won't talk to me about it. 5 months is the longest he has held a job. He lives with his mom's mother in a retirement community and just moved his girlfriend in and she works at the same place and has the same amount of hours per week.
He never really lived with Jay because with Jay there were rules. You go to school and work, etc. So he always went back to his grandmother. He goes months without seeing Jay. They were supposed to be over yesterday at 9 am and told Jay they would make him pancakes for breakfast. They showed up at 1:30 and didn't even call to tell us. Good think I didn't tell our caregiver to take the day off.
My brother gave Jay a $50 gift card for father's day and he went and gave it to his son. And for the third time last night he said he wants his son and his girlfriend to move in. Again I said no. We cannot afford two adults. He said that they'll have to take care of themselves. They can't afford to. I understand he may want his son around but not to move in. My house is not large and they would always be home. They argue all the time and have had problems at his grandmother's house because of it.
Yes, they help with Jay when they actually show up. But again, we can't afford it. I'm trying to explain that all bills will go up. They can't afford food and I can't afford to feed them. I'm so angry I didn't even want to look at him last night. I just don't know what to do.
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