I'm lucky the true nastiness doesn't happen often--my PALS mostly gets very insistent, impatient...childlike, actually. But if he does get ornery, I'll just ask him, "is that the ALS talking now, because you have never been that mean before." It seems to shake him out of it. No one wants to be controlled by ALS, so when it's brought to his attention that it's turning him into someone mean, he tries hard to reign it in.
ALS IS mean, and scary, and sad, and although I feel those things along with him, I can never truly fathom the depth that my (or any) PALS experiences them. I figure he's bound to lash out now and then, but it doesn't hurt to remind him the lashing out is about the ALS, not me. We're both (in fact everyone here is) just doing our best with this beast. Wish so badly I could pick it up and throw it out that I've been tempted to substitute a plate or a glass. Have resisted so far, but if you hear something shatter.... :wink: