my3sunz43
New member
- Joined
- Apr 28, 2015
- Messages
- 9
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 12/2009
- Country
- US
- State
- wi
- City
- waukesha
Our PALs has been living with ALS for almost 8 years --- he is now to the point where is upper body, neck and breathing are the most affected. His legs still supported him but he had to move slowly.
While caring for him on Friday, he got up to go to the bathroom. I walked him in, helped drop his pants and he was standing at the potty and I gave him privacy by leaving the room. While standing outside the bathroom door I heard a 'thud' and knew what happened. We were home alone with his 9 year old daughter. I rushed into the bathroom to find him face down, arms at his side with blood coming out of his head.
He was unable to breath, so I rolled him over and propped him up on my lap while his poor, screaming daughter retrieved the phone so I could dial 911. I was stuck below him propping his head and neck up --- he was wheezing. His BIPAP was in another part of the house hooked up to his wheel chair. Therefore I couldn't help him and screamed for his daughter. The little hero jumped in Dad's chair and drove it into the bathroom - saving her dad's life.
To say that falls are bad is an understatement --- this is a living nightmare. He broke his left clavical, 3 bones in his face (including his cheek bone), and his right wrist. Has stitches over his left eyebrow. Fortunately no brain injury or hip issues.
He was in the hospital Friday night and transferred to a dump of a rehap center allowing us a night of sleep to get our thoughts together on next steps.
Have spoken to our contact at the ALSA - unfortunately most of our options are limited due to insurance (like the dump rehab). He desparately wants to go home, but there is NO way we can do transfers there just yet. Hoyer lift needs to be put in place along with more nursing care.
Not sure what I'm asking for ... are we getting towards the end? Should I have our college sons come home? How do we manage the care he now needs? His little children are terrified to be alone with him now. His wife is stoic but a mess. And while I'm actively a part of their life (btw, he is my first husband --- we are a new age 'brady bunch' family) I'm struggling with my role.
Slept last night without having nightmares reliving the fall over and over ... but I think that was exhaustion. Praying for peace for all of us.
Thank you for listening.
While caring for him on Friday, he got up to go to the bathroom. I walked him in, helped drop his pants and he was standing at the potty and I gave him privacy by leaving the room. While standing outside the bathroom door I heard a 'thud' and knew what happened. We were home alone with his 9 year old daughter. I rushed into the bathroom to find him face down, arms at his side with blood coming out of his head.
He was unable to breath, so I rolled him over and propped him up on my lap while his poor, screaming daughter retrieved the phone so I could dial 911. I was stuck below him propping his head and neck up --- he was wheezing. His BIPAP was in another part of the house hooked up to his wheel chair. Therefore I couldn't help him and screamed for his daughter. The little hero jumped in Dad's chair and drove it into the bathroom - saving her dad's life.
To say that falls are bad is an understatement --- this is a living nightmare. He broke his left clavical, 3 bones in his face (including his cheek bone), and his right wrist. Has stitches over his left eyebrow. Fortunately no brain injury or hip issues.
He was in the hospital Friday night and transferred to a dump of a rehap center allowing us a night of sleep to get our thoughts together on next steps.
Have spoken to our contact at the ALSA - unfortunately most of our options are limited due to insurance (like the dump rehab). He desparately wants to go home, but there is NO way we can do transfers there just yet. Hoyer lift needs to be put in place along with more nursing care.
Not sure what I'm asking for ... are we getting towards the end? Should I have our college sons come home? How do we manage the care he now needs? His little children are terrified to be alone with him now. His wife is stoic but a mess. And while I'm actively a part of their life (btw, he is my first husband --- we are a new age 'brady bunch' family) I'm struggling with my role.
Slept last night without having nightmares reliving the fall over and over ... but I think that was exhaustion. Praying for peace for all of us.
Thank you for listening.