Prohobo
Member
- Joined
- Mar 9, 2015
- Messages
- 18
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 03/2015
- Country
- US
- State
- FL
- City
- Sarasota
My mother was diagnosed (officially today) with Bulbar ALS. She can't speak anymore and can barely move (wheelchair). She can still write - but that is degrading quickly.
She had fallen a month ago and from the hospital moved into a skilled nursing facility, where she has been ever since.
I visit daily - as the only close family member near by. However, I am unable to care for her on my own. I am not sure how long we have or if she can remain there or moved somewhere else.
She has still not been told about the diagnosis - as I am arranging transport for her to see the Dr. for him to tell her. (I am the POA and Health Surrogate - so I was told over the phone this morning with a confirmation. I knew actually since last Thursday - but was told it was not yet official until they ran a couple of more tests.)
Now I am trying to figure out how to care for her and make her comfortable. I don't know how long we have together.
However - not to sound selfish or uncaring - I have a business in which my employees and clients depend on me and the business. If I ignore it and not give it my undivided attention - they suffer. Which makes me feel guilty that I am not with my mom.
She had fallen a month ago and from the hospital moved into a skilled nursing facility, where she has been ever since.
I visit daily - as the only close family member near by. However, I am unable to care for her on my own. I am not sure how long we have or if she can remain there or moved somewhere else.
She has still not been told about the diagnosis - as I am arranging transport for her to see the Dr. for him to tell her. (I am the POA and Health Surrogate - so I was told over the phone this morning with a confirmation. I knew actually since last Thursday - but was told it was not yet official until they ran a couple of more tests.)
Now I am trying to figure out how to care for her and make her comfortable. I don't know how long we have together.
However - not to sound selfish or uncaring - I have a business in which my employees and clients depend on me and the business. If I ignore it and not give it my undivided attention - they suffer. Which makes me feel guilty that I am not with my mom.