HeatherFeather
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Nov 30, 2014
- Messages
- 284
- Reason
- CALS
- Diagnosis
- 10/2014
- Country
- CA
- State
- Quebec
- City
- Tiny town w/no stoplight!
OMG you guys...I have to tell you that yesterday was such a bad day. I couldn't lift Ron off the lazy boy chair to position him into the commode, he kept falling and I had no strength. We managed and I could not get him off the commode. Finally we used the transfer circle and with all my strength of leaning back, he was able to get up.
I could not stop crying for about an hour. I was in a period of severe distress. I asked him why he is smiling, laughing and joking when we have guests and why he is so miserable and verbally abusive when we are alone. He told me he is not comfortable being alone with me any more. He does not feel secure or safe with me. He is afraid of falling. When we have guests there is usually one man in the house so he knows that he will have strong help.
Last night, getting back into our bed with the high box spring and mattress, was a nightmare. (we returned to our old bedroom with the Queen bed because he found the other double bed was too small - we had moved to the guest room with the double bed because his wheelchair could pass there. In our old room a dresser was in the way. Yesterday, we moved the dresser so that we could return to our old room and his wheelchair could pass through to his side of the bed)
He wanted me to get the circular transfer from the basement - This thing ways a ton ... it's too heavy for me to lift it up the stairs. We managed finally to get him into the higher bed but it was a nightmare. I don't know what to do - now I'm afraid of getting him out of bed and all the other times I have to help lift him. My heart is beating rapidly, I am so stressed this morning.
I guess I just need some comfort from you guys - thanks for being here
I could not stop crying for about an hour. I was in a period of severe distress. I asked him why he is smiling, laughing and joking when we have guests and why he is so miserable and verbally abusive when we are alone. He told me he is not comfortable being alone with me any more. He does not feel secure or safe with me. He is afraid of falling. When we have guests there is usually one man in the house so he knows that he will have strong help.
Last night, getting back into our bed with the high box spring and mattress, was a nightmare. (we returned to our old bedroom with the Queen bed because he found the other double bed was too small - we had moved to the guest room with the double bed because his wheelchair could pass there. In our old room a dresser was in the way. Yesterday, we moved the dresser so that we could return to our old room and his wheelchair could pass through to his side of the bed)
He wanted me to get the circular transfer from the basement - This thing ways a ton ... it's too heavy for me to lift it up the stairs. We managed finally to get him into the higher bed but it was a nightmare. I don't know what to do - now I'm afraid of getting him out of bed and all the other times I have to help lift him. My heart is beating rapidly, I am so stressed this morning.
I guess I just need some comfort from you guys - thanks for being here