AnaMaria
Member
- Joined
- Feb 18, 2013
- Messages
- 17
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Country
- CA
- State
- Ontario
- City
- Markham
Its been a long time since been here. Guess you can say I have been preoccupied.
Last January in 2013 my mother asked I help her - Mom has ALS. She said my father (who never cooked or cleaned before) could not help much, and he is in his 80's. So, with my husbands blessing, I traveled from Toronto to Seattle. Cleaned, cooked, shopped, helped get her an airbed, toilet seat, bath seat, neck brace, etc... Finally went home again only to be called back 2 months later because she had a bad stroke.
When things seemed settled (she was in a Nursing home), I went to back to Toronto to find my husband had an affair. I gave up 2 part time jobs, lost my husband, going through a divorce now (his wish), and I don't even know where I will work or live in the near future... oh, lost 35 pounds due to depression and I never been so heartbroken - Mom's breathing is now becoming weaker too.
Here I am in Seattle for another month (been here 3.5 weeks). Dad took Mom home and they hired a caregiver (finally).
I can't say I am looking forward to 2014. 2013 was unbearable. I have a feeling 2014 won't be a walk in the park either. I feel I lost my world, as well as slowly loosing my Mom.
Why am I writing this? Has anyone else been betrayed while doing the right thing?
Last January in 2013 my mother asked I help her - Mom has ALS. She said my father (who never cooked or cleaned before) could not help much, and he is in his 80's. So, with my husbands blessing, I traveled from Toronto to Seattle. Cleaned, cooked, shopped, helped get her an airbed, toilet seat, bath seat, neck brace, etc... Finally went home again only to be called back 2 months later because she had a bad stroke.
When things seemed settled (she was in a Nursing home), I went to back to Toronto to find my husband had an affair. I gave up 2 part time jobs, lost my husband, going through a divorce now (his wish), and I don't even know where I will work or live in the near future... oh, lost 35 pounds due to depression and I never been so heartbroken - Mom's breathing is now becoming weaker too.
Here I am in Seattle for another month (been here 3.5 weeks). Dad took Mom home and they hired a caregiver (finally).
I can't say I am looking forward to 2014. 2013 was unbearable. I have a feeling 2014 won't be a walk in the park either. I feel I lost my world, as well as slowly loosing my Mom.
Why am I writing this? Has anyone else been betrayed while doing the right thing?