bemindful
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- Joined
- Jun 25, 2013
- Messages
- 61
- Reason
- Loved one DX
- Diagnosis
- 01/2008
- Country
- US
- State
- Missouri
- City
- St. Louis
My mom was diagnosed with Bulbar Palsy ALS five years ago. For several years (3.5) she was pretty good at living alone in her retirement center apartment. For the last 1 1/2 years she has had home health care aides 5.5 hours a day. She is very savvy, has done most of the research about ALS herself, decided what equipment she needed and ordered it, even when she got to the point of only being able to fingerpeck on the computer. Finally she (and I) realized that she was unsafe living alone. She let me know she was afraid and thought a nursing home was best.
She is in one now and it is NOT working out. It is awful and she wants to go back home after 1 week. I don't blame her. The place is awful. She has had two skin tears, been held down and force-fed through a Bolar tube when she can only tolerate a pump, left for 30+ minutes when she has to use the commode, etc. Its bad.
She wanted me to look into going home with Hospice, but Hospice will not take a client if they do not have 24 hour care when they are not there. I cannot move in with her.
Does anyone have any experience with Hospice in the St. Louis area? I'm thinking we can move her to a different nursing home and maybe Hospice will make a difference.
I'm so tired and I worry about her all of the time.
She is in one now and it is NOT working out. It is awful and she wants to go back home after 1 week. I don't blame her. The place is awful. She has had two skin tears, been held down and force-fed through a Bolar tube when she can only tolerate a pump, left for 30+ minutes when she has to use the commode, etc. Its bad.
She wanted me to look into going home with Hospice, but Hospice will not take a client if they do not have 24 hour care when they are not there. I cannot move in with her.
Does anyone have any experience with Hospice in the St. Louis area? I'm thinking we can move her to a different nursing home and maybe Hospice will make a difference.
I'm so tired and I worry about her all of the time.